Are you helping just for the sake?
Are you genuinely lending a hand? If yes,
Are you ensuring whether the help is in a usable form and not a show off type?
Are you ensuring whether the help offered by you was useful to the recipients?
Otherwise why do we need need to help them, just to make them obliged?
Can’t do anything if the help is just a show off type. But there are cases when we oversee it. Even if we didn’t have any secret agenda behind the helping hands, we miss to shape it in a better form. Or rather we don’t ensure the quality of the help given. If we could think or imagine ourselves to be in that recipients’ position, the help will definitely be a useful one.