some mysteries…

She knew that she was just one among his crushes. Still she couldn’t resist talking to him. She was very well aware of his flaws. Still she was bound to him…

Yes, there are certain people in our life, influencing us a lot, need not be in a good way, though.

Need not be expressed, need not be revealed, still we love to hear from them..

What’s the name of this kind of relationship..? A blind addiction.., isn’t it..?

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The author is a Quality Analyst by experience. Part Quantitative data analyst, part consultant for quality and information security practices, part software tester, she is a writer by passion and blogs at https://wordsandnotion.com and https://qualitynotion.com/.

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  1. elaine

    September 27, 2016 at 9:24am

    that blind addiction can be two way with respect for each other 🙂

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      Akhila

      September 27, 2016 at 10:10am

      if it’s two way, then I rate it as the supreme love.. otherwise, i dont know..

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  2. Mariam Sodawater

    September 27, 2016 at 9:37am

    I call it being a foolish women to be attracted to a man full of flaws, and I also admit. Sometimes being foolish is fun that is too pleasurable too resist.

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  3. Josh

    September 27, 2016 at 9:46am

    I guess its love, cause love is also about liking the flaws while embracing the qualities we like about them.. so Its LOVE 🙂

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      • Josh

        September 27, 2016 at 10:12am

        Love is actually one sided, it has to be that way, if not it may cause collide. **We give love and receive them in different frequencies, not on the same way**

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    Akhila

    September 27, 2016 at 10:10am

    ha ha.. so as long as we are not disclosing it, no heartbreak..

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    Akhila

    September 27, 2016 at 10:14am

    ya, he will irrespective of whether we disclose it or not..that’s the first statement , I added in that post

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  6. Varsh

    September 27, 2016 at 10:15am

    To willingly yearn for a person you are nobody for…that’s alright I guess. The addiction is acceptable if you don’t let it make you sad or bitter on the inside. That person might not know about you and end up doing something to hurt you unknowingly. Better to speak it out and face the consequences.

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      Akhila

      September 27, 2016 at 10:18am

      ha ha…i wish your message be seen by all concerned fellows agreeing to this post..
      and in between, please have a recheck on the first statement of that post too.

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  7. Josh

    September 27, 2016 at 10:22am

    The thing i believe is that, we should not do things copying what the other person has done, instead we should fill it with something fresh, and i also keep on preaching to people that LOVE = Work-In-Progress, and you need not to be monotonous, imitating the way other couple do, things which works for them may not work for you. Its magical and you should never copy or reveal the core of your trade 🙂 **Oru Glass vellam 😛 **

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    Akhila

    September 27, 2016 at 10:23am

    after all, what i feel is, ‘these are all just infatuations”..frankly i dont find a possible love there..

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    • supercalifragilisticexpialidocious

      September 27, 2016 at 10:26am

      Yes. But too much infatuation is dangerous. It’s very difficult to define love these days, because love has become more dependent on things like money and Beauty. People don’t believe in inner beauty, if someone is rixh, handsome or pretty, that is all one looks for in a partner. (Not all are like this, though)

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  9. Varsh

    September 27, 2016 at 10:32am

    Exactly. If supposedly one person cannot see your virtues it doesn’t mean no one ever will. You cannot close your heart to others waiting for that one person to magically learn of your feelings, since you don’t want to speak of them. Again, it doesn’t mean he will reciprocate too.

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    • supercalifragilisticexpialidocious

      September 27, 2016 at 10:36am

      Exactly! Waiting for that person who might never fall in love with you. People never change, and yet they cling on thinking that he or she will change. There are few who try to change the ones whom they love and finally say “you were not like this before!”
      Love does not come with conditions. Accepting someone the way they are, and not trying to change them is love. Nobody is born perfect so why try to shape up someone to live up to your expectations just because you love them?? People will never understand this…

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    Akhila

    September 27, 2016 at 10:49am

    so you are an experienced hand..just go on..

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          • myheartbeats4ublog

            September 27, 2016 at 11:22am

            Ma’am…(idikkalle)
            Some relationships are unexplainable. I wouldn’t term the one you have brought out as ‘addiction’, and certainly not love/lust/crush/infatuation!Then what should one call it?
            well…perhaps that is the charm of such a relationship, it just cannot be defined in simple words. But it has a special charm, that rekindles the heart in an unique way.. both the parties enjoy it, albeit do not acknowledge the ‘life’ it injects into one’s life!! Of course, it has it’s own flaws too….

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            Akhila

            September 27, 2016 at 11:42am

            that’s it.. the perfect reply, i would say…

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          • myheartbeats4ublog

            September 27, 2016 at 11:49am

            innithrem mathi alle…
            electrons/wandering thoughts/ghosts/virtuality and of course a small dose of spirituality

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  12. Sonali@foodtravelandmakeup

    September 27, 2016 at 11:35am

    your posts make me stop by and think…I am falling in love with your writing.

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      Akhila

      September 27, 2016 at 11:45am

      thanks sonali…the best complement, i would say

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      • Sonali@foodtravelandmakeup

        September 27, 2016 at 11:51am

        My pleasure…

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  13. Bikramjit

    September 27, 2016 at 11:50am

    Love is funny… We do things that we wud not otherwise..

    But I also think that many of us give way too much weightage to love..
    So what if it’s one sided.. at least you loved someone.. that is good .. that other person is unlucky to not have got the love .

    Add relationships to the mixture and it becomes a bigger mystery..

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  14. Bikramjit

    September 27, 2016 at 11:51am

    Friday.. oh no.. can you make it other day.. Friday I get busy sometimes…pleaseeeeeeeee. ..

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  15. Daisy in the Willows

    September 27, 2016 at 11:52am

    Indeed Ahkila. For me it is scarily bordering on obsession. Time t for me to let go and live. How? 😀

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  16. Bikramjit

    September 27, 2016 at 12:10pm

    Oh yes pleaseeeeeeeee. . I need a lot of that councelling. .

    Ok friday then ..

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  17. Bikramjit

    September 27, 2016 at 12:19pm

    From next week.. This Friday I am in Dublin. . Yipeeeeeee. ..

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  18. Varsh

    September 27, 2016 at 12:20pm

    True. People attach other things with love now. The mere fact of enjoying each other’s company is moot if you aren’t doing so at some place that can be flaunted to your friends and followers. Time is an important factor I think, since our busy lives give us little time or energy to invest in our relationships. Anyway, blaming the other one or cheating isn’t the solution.

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  19. Prajakta

    September 27, 2016 at 12:24pm

    when we are kids.. we do the exactly opposite of what we are told. it’s just like that here. Deep inside we would know that it is not correct or it won’t work out or he is not a nice person but still we will do exactly the opposite.

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  20. supercalifragilisticexpialidocious

    September 27, 2016 at 12:32pm

    That’s true varsha. Ther are people who are in worst situations than we can ever imagine. Keeping our emotions tight when they sit in front of us crying, is very difficult. And not just that, being a counsellor, suppose one of your patients gives up hope on life and does the unexpected (ending their life), we do get a thought that ‘may be I could have done better. I should have put in more effort to convince them that they are not alone’.
    Those medicines that are prescribed work only as long as patients take it regularly. Stopping it abruptly will result in a more severe case than before. Too many things to think about before planning to be a counsellor or physiatrist. It’s not a cake walk to say I can help people. When depressed, one never knows what thoughts the mind gets.

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    • Varsh

      September 27, 2016 at 12:37pm

      It is a very serious and responsible job. You’re right, we can try our best but still if the worst happens we cannot easily forgive us for what happened. Medicines are temporary and can help only for a limited time frame. Unless and until the person is prepared to consciously work on himself no one can help him. Not even the counsellor. Hats off to you for even attempting it. I can never do that. I’m amongst the weak ones who doesn’t watch tv or read the newspaper for days following some tragedy somewhere.

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      • supercalifragilisticexpialidocious

        September 27, 2016 at 12:43pm

        These medicines only improve the chemical reactions in our brain. There is a compound in our that helps in thought process, these medicines help in regaining the lost compound. (I am a lay man so I don’t know the scientific terms, hence I am mentioning it as compound)
        But being strong, having that will power and saying that this is just a phase, it will pass helps. Atleast in small cases, not in severe cases where medicines are mandatory.
        Even physiatrists are human isn’t it. No matter how strong anybody is, there comes a situation when they do get tears in their eyes or atleast they feel bad for the other person. Some things are unavoidable, easy to say but going through that phase is difficult.

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        • Varsh

          September 27, 2016 at 1:08pm

          Have seen some people going through this difficult phase. It is indeed tough.

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  21. unsaid words

    September 27, 2016 at 1:15pm

    Someone truly said the most addictive dtug for a human is another human .We do know sometimes the flaws of the person and even the fact that may be they are not that into us but what we don’t know is how to dettach ourselves from them.

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      Akhila

      September 27, 2016 at 2:11pm

      true.. we cannot detach ourselves from some people

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  22. Shreya Sharma

    September 27, 2016 at 1:34pm

    Can’t stop myself to comment here. I have been a part of this once long back. BLIND-ADDICTION. It could ruin someone completely when not in control. It’s one of the worst things.

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      Akhila

      September 27, 2016 at 2:00pm

      oh..is it so worse dear…what if it does not appear to be a harmful obsession..

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    Akhila

    September 27, 2016 at 2:14pm

    poor chaps.. they are not even knowing how clearly they are degrading themselves..

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  25. prashantt

    September 27, 2016 at 3:00pm

    Hellos! Akhila..what a notion!
    Its simply love because pyaar aur kanoon hi andhe hote hai(love & law are universally blind).;p

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      Akhila

      September 27, 2016 at 4:15pm

      ha, i liked it.. love and law are universally blind..

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    • ramblings of the mind

      September 27, 2016 at 4:29pm

      The only thing I could relate is bad influence.. always been called as one.. by friends girlfriends and parents

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        Akhila

        September 27, 2016 at 4:32pm

        and are you still proud of to be a bad influencer..ehh..??

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  27. boundlessblessingsblog

    September 27, 2016 at 4:27pm

    “What’s the name of this kind of relationship..? A blind addiction.., isn’t it..?” A wonderful way you have ended your beautiful poem, Akhila. When love comes you are blinded to everything and every one. It is like a blind addiction and you are crazily blinded. Superb.

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      Akhila

      September 27, 2016 at 4:30pm

      thanks Kamal…it is okay as far as it is not turning out to be a harmful obsession

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      • boundlessblessingsblog

        September 27, 2016 at 4:32pm

        Hahaha so true Akhila but nothing matters in the long run. Harmful too disappears. Don’t worry u wrote so well.

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  28. Vikas Singh

    September 27, 2016 at 5:28pm

    Probably it’s called a ‘Divine affection’.
    no word plays, but truth.

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  29. Moushmi Radhanpara

    September 27, 2016 at 5:57pm

    I agree with you on the term “Blind affection”. Sometimes we just can’t have control over us and our emotions.

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      Akhila

      September 27, 2016 at 10:33pm

      it is okay to be blind as long as your are not kicked out

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    • ramblings of the mind

      September 27, 2016 at 7:14pm

      Amsterdam all over again .. rum cakes and marijuana ones delicious . Forget the world and let’s live in wonderland

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  30. theonlysup

    September 27, 2016 at 7:38pm

    A flawless human is a myth. But accepting the flaws takes more maturity. Loving beyond flaws is OK .. But mistake repeated is no longer a mistake . it a decision .
    May be yes it might a blind infatuation.. I don’t know how to name it ..

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      Akhila

      September 27, 2016 at 10:22pm

      ha, you are right…it is a name less relation 😉

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  31. irusja11

    September 27, 2016 at 8:53pm

    The post is really great! I love it:)

    irenethayer.com

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  33. Martian

    September 27, 2016 at 11:12pm

    i hope its soul mate relationship..i believe in soul.rebirth as we wear new shirt..soul just goes to new body when this body cease to function..

    so somehow they might have been ur better half long ago..if u read my soul mate research papers…in the blog…u will understand..i have published 3 reports final one is pending….it gives me a shocking result of a mathamatical calculation..of 35 soul mates….you must read that post..will be posted in 2 weeks…

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      Akhila

      September 27, 2016 at 11:13pm

      sure.. will read.. thank you for suggesting..

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      • Martian

        September 27, 2016 at 11:14pm

        so i have experienced this…met many still in my memory..i wonder why

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      Akhila

      September 28, 2016 at 4:13pm

      I think your views are more apt to the situation

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      Akhila

      September 29, 2016 at 9:13am

      thanks tanya..glad that you can relate to

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    Akhila

    March 13, 2017 at 12:35pm

    Two kids.aren’t they… Maybe it’s time for me to wear a spectacle…

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