I am raped..

“I am raped, brutally raped.. Media are celebrating me..”

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“Oh ! thank God.. It’s not me..” Is this not the first feeling flooding into your mind reading newspapers or watching television news?

Then we all sympathize or empathize.. That’s all we can do or we are doing.. Merely word plays. Even I am not an exception to this word play.

How can the actions work before words start their play?

Can we really shoe her position and understand the torture and help her rescued?

I do believe in Ahimsa. But what if Ahimsa fails in a selfish world..?

It is high time to start the game of revenge as there is no heart not only for rapists but for laws also..

— womanly notions

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One thought on “I am raped..

  1. TalkaholicMe

    October 1, 2016 at 9:36am

    The starting line shaked my soul.. it’s high time we should really thank god that it’s not us and neither one of us.. But there will be a fear forever amongst us.. we have to get rid of that fear. . nice post

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      Akhila

      October 2, 2016 at 11:36am

      True, we never can get rid of that fear unless we are confident on our muscle power atleast

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  2. my valiant soul

    October 1, 2016 at 10:05am

    When it’s about rape,no ahimsa should hamper the sickness that exists outside.Ahimsa is good to certain level,but things can be done by million ways and the solution of rape is direct action..productive action.

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      Akhila

      October 1, 2016 at 3:04pm

      Yes mvs…let the productive actions come fast

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  3. Ratika Bhardwaj

    October 1, 2016 at 10:05am

    Women are all fierce.<3 We all have the same right that men have but difference lies in the mentality which cannot be changed even after making laws. What u say? and these lines gave me goosebumps,“I am raped, brutally raped.. Media are celebrating me..” Stunning <3 🙂

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  4. Shalini Sharrma

    October 1, 2016 at 11:10am

    I totally agree in this aggressive world we should think of ahimsa in a limited way and should seek revenge in every form when a girl is being raped to let others learn a scary lesson in fact, few years back when i read these kind of news i thought of a solution a brutal one to let crocodiles take care of rapist, no mercy at all.

    Good Morning !

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      Akhila

      October 1, 2016 at 2:51pm

      Ha..thumbs up on this crocodile way…they should be taught a lesson and then killed

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  5. prashantt

    October 1, 2016 at 11:11am

    No ahimsa for this crime just one action thats shoot at sight.

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      Akhila

      October 1, 2016 at 2:45pm

      Thanks a ton…but what i feel is, shoot at sight is the least punishment they deserve…

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      • prashantt

        October 1, 2016 at 3:51pm

        So what do you think as to my perception we can’t teach lessons for this hideous crime..its better to kill those bastards as rape kills a soul inside.

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          Akhila

          October 2, 2016 at 11:35am

          They must be given the worst death….in front of the crowd….as shalini.said,something like a crocodile punishment

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  6. Puneet

    October 1, 2016 at 11:17am

    There is a limit for everything. Once it’s crossed, do everything you can.

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      Akhila

      October 1, 2016 at 2:43pm

      Yes…your words are encouraging me to take weapons, to fight against these evils…

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      • Puneet

        October 1, 2016 at 2:44pm

        Indeed I am encouraging you. I believe in compromising upto a certain limit which we decide. Limit crossed, weapons in hand. That’s straight and simple.

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  7. Opher

    October 1, 2016 at 12:09pm

    Revenge and violence are self-generating. The culture can only be changed through strength of action as Ghandi demonstrated. If people defiantly stand up against atrocities, peacefully, and demand justice, then they can achieve anything.
    This culture of misogyny and revenge has to stop. Rapists need locking up for a long time. The police and courts need to act.

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      Akhila

      October 1, 2016 at 2:37pm

      Hmm..but you know when the law and police fail, the distress starts..people take weapons…they can’t be blamed if they forget the path of ahimsa

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  8. Varsh

    October 1, 2016 at 12:45pm

    Ahimsa works for humans…not flesh-feasting psychopaths who feel no remorse for what they’ve done.

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      Akhila

      October 1, 2016 at 2:40pm

      Ha..you said it…whom to be blamed for this evilness…whom to make them understand on their psychopathy …yes, only weapons can teach them a lesson

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      Akhila

      October 1, 2016 at 1:53pm

      Thanks anchal…let the intensity drive the inner power in everyone of us…

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  10. crystalamay

    October 1, 2016 at 4:29pm

    I agree with it and quote,I too believ in peace and ahimsa,but its high time we take law in hands bec thats the situation.

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      Akhila

      October 2, 2016 at 11:26am

      Thanks amay..and there is no point is keeping ahimsa while knowing these brutality

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  11. vibesofacalcuttan

    October 1, 2016 at 4:35pm

    Stringent laws are only useful when implemented, and since most of the time they aren’t, we have to take matters into our own hand within reasonable limit. I feel mortified even thinking about how the victims live after rape, and we cannot pretend to understand it. Ahimsa won’t cut it, and we don’t live in the world of Batman where it’s “Justice, not vengeance”. Justice doesn’t work.

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    • skd

      October 1, 2016 at 5:10pm

      … Also we need to see how the criminal lives afterwards as well. That’s more shocking and ridicule us…all of us.. 🙁

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      • vibesofacalcuttan

        October 1, 2016 at 5:16pm

        The criminal gets bail 🙁 I mean, just how…..that itself portrays everything that’s wrong with the system. Giving them the ultimate punishment isn’t the solution either, since that will just increase the murder count after rape. Only thing to do is trying to deal it ourselves cleverly, standing up and face them with preferably a self-defence training every girl should learn.

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        Akhila

        October 2, 2016 at 11:30am

        Exactly…victims are only suffered and never the master brainbehind it

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      Akhila

      October 2, 2016 at 11:29am

      True..when the laws are emotionless, when justice is not given to victims, we are forced to start the vengeance game

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  12. Sonali@foodtravelandmakeup

    October 1, 2016 at 4:47pm

    superb..very deep

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      Akhila

      October 2, 2016 at 11:21am

      Exactly that’s my point..she is not looking for sympathy or empathy…she wants actions..
      will check your post

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  13. boundlessblessingsblog

    October 1, 2016 at 6:00pm

    Great post Akhila u have said it all so correctly we women need to be fiercely fierce and it is so cruel on that person who goes thru this but let me tell u even young boys r not left.

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      Akhila

      October 1, 2016 at 8:47pm

      Hmm…what makes them think even the little babies as their utilities for pleasure ..really pathetic situation

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          Akhila

          October 2, 2016 at 11:17am

          It’s better to shut senses and react in the same coin while living midst of such nonsenses

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  14. Sha'Tara

    October 1, 2016 at 9:41pm

    Sorry, can’t make this any shorter: some questions for all…
    I followed the entire thread as this problem of violence against women – misogyny – has been a life-long concern. Currently I’ve achieved what I consider to be a high level of compassionate thought and interaction. I know that compassion isn’t a weak thing, nor is it unjust. It is not ahimsa – I think it runs much deeper because it concerns itself with much more than the self: it observes and JUDGES all things. As a compassionate being in a dysfunctional system, confronted with a raped and abused victim, my approach to the perpetrator is totally clear: punishment must happen. Castration is mandatory, unless the perp asks for death. I would give him (or her!) the choice to choose suicide to rid society of that burden. Extra-judicial execution would also be an alternative when nothing else works.
    Now please take a step back and look at the reason these crimes are perpetrated on earth, upon women and their children. They were either rare or non-existent in non-civilized societies, so the problem resides in how Earthian society, or civilization, is imposed and manipulated. The real problem lies in the process of civilizing and from my observation, “man” needs to back away from civilizing and into natural living once more. Try to imagine the many societal problems that could no longer be possible in an “uncivilized” world.
    I understand why so much talk of punishing perps and I fully sympathize. Only in a completely empathetic society will these crimes disappear. But realize this: your soldiers are just as criminally responsible of crimes against women and children, and humanity, every day. If you endorse that, your fight against rape is already lost. All or nothing. If “the Media” “celebrates” a victim of crime, it’s not because it cares, it’s because of ratings. So TURN IT ALL OFF, right now, and forever. Do not join the “celebration” either for or against.
    Finally, is there going to be real action from this? What is going to be done? Form groups of female vigilantes? Find the rapists and kill them? Find the lawyers who defend them, the judges who set them free, the men who employ them, and kill them all? Are women going to enteer into a no-sex “satyagraha” or non-violent non-cooperation, refusing to enter into romantic relationships, refusing to sleep with men, refusing to bear them children? Should women form “women only” communities and ban men from such? All that has been tried, and done before. Read “The Chalice and the Blade” by Riane Eisler, and the many other anthropological works of research done on how women have tried to defend themselves against an imposed PATRIARCHY in ages past. Can we learn from their sacrifices, their martyrdom, their destruction and enslavement as each effort was brutally crushed? How do we proceed? Hopefully not like the turkey gobbler strutting around in a slaughter pen before Thanksgiving saying, “Now that we’re organized, what do we do?”

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      Akhila

      October 2, 2016 at 8:41am

      thanks shatara for this thoughtful reply..there are many messages in your comment.. there can not be a women only community and it is totally out of question..and the question is “next what” and it reaches nowhere sadly.

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      • Sha'Tara

        October 2, 2016 at 9:02am

        The subject of rape, I think, runs even deeper than that of war, yet they are interconnected since war is also the worst kind of violent rape, done openly for profit. If we connect the difficult threads of certain aspects of civilization; if we dare look way back at our civilized roots and before that, we see certain patterns emerging that expose our so-called civilization as a concept of massive control through fear, instability, insecurity, dependency which all lead to deliberate violence against the weak, the poor, the marginalized. In civilized societies women form the greatest marginalized and oppressed group. Such a condition surpasses understanding because it makes absolutely NO SENSE. Women, by their position should be automatically revered and all things done on earth would be to make their lives better: safer, easier, happier, etc. There is nothing to man (as an individual) that can be more precious than a woman. For one, she is the source of his greatest physical pleasure, bar none. Beyond that, she is his immediate comforter, cooking, cleaning, looking after his children; his trusted and trusting companion, his defender when he screws up in the eyes of the world, the one who stands by him through thick or thin – therefore his misogyny is a sickness, utter madness. What causes it? The Patriarchy. Who established that controlling system? Man’s “Gods” – and in this women are just as guilty as men because in many cases it is the women who support these Patriarchal, openly misogynist “Gods” as we see throughout history. Women give themselves to the service of their worst oppressors and believe they are being holy. For Christians the story begins at Genesis, chapter 2 of their Bible, the “creation” of Adam and Eve, with Eve being framed and saddled with the first and deadly sin of disobedience. That this farce is taken seriously by billions of people says much: it’s brainwashing designed to crush the female will and keep her in slave status. Rape is condoned by the Patriarchy for the same reason: to keep women in fear of men, dependent upon them for protection and thus socially and economically disempowered. Another too long comment, but so much could be said. Look back, way back, and you’ll see through the fog how this came to be. When we understand the root of a problem, that’s when we begin to see how it may be resolved.

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          Akhila

          October 2, 2016 at 11:13am

          You are absolutely right…it is very much rooted in the evilness of patriarchal dominance. Interestingly i feel a different thought..wht if women start to rape men …maybe be it is difficult for a girl to understand, including myself…and ultimately what i think is, she needs to enhance her muscle power, not only to protect but also to protest

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  15. We come from dreams ~

    October 2, 2016 at 1:51am

    Raping the rapist…………………by other rapists…………………………until they rupture themselves to death? But these are “civilized” responses, and as Sha’Tara pointed out, civilization is what needs ending.

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      Akhila

      October 2, 2016 at 8:22am

      hmm…raping the rapists until they rupture…the best punishment so far i heard..

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  16. Maniparna Sengupta Majumder

    October 2, 2016 at 2:57am

    I do think in the same way when it comes to rapists. Nothing but capital punishment for them! Or, maybe, something even worse….

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  17. theonlysup

    October 2, 2016 at 12:20pm

    I do not support any inhuman acts. what practical solution do u suggest. .. Besides laws .

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      Akhila

      October 2, 2016 at 9:09pm

      well..first thing what i feel is physical power and mental power to win over the crisis

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  18. fairykumar

    October 2, 2016 at 1:03pm

    This thing is not just a topic but far beyond something which is gradually eating the soul of humanity.

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      Akhila

      October 2, 2016 at 9:08pm

      hmm.. nowadays, we cannot have a newspaper or television news without rape news…wondering why the media are celebrating this topic so keenly

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      • Sha'Tara

        October 3, 2016 at 12:59am

        Akhila, from my point of view, the media plays it up for ratings and the Patriarchy encourages it because the more the media talks up a storm about wars, rape, genocide and natural catastrophe’s, the less people “feel” their impact. It becomes entertainment and background noise. Perhaps the time has come for women committed to his cause to form a movement and begin protest and demonstrations, a movement so powerful that it keeps these protests up no matter what until the acquiescing male powers are forced to come to terms with it. I’m thinking something on the scale of the suffragette movement that finally got women the vote. Women died all sorts of things to promote their cause, including denying sex to their husbands, refusing to stay at home, and even being jailed and publicly ridiculed and lampooned in political satire. Remember, that was a time when Christian theologians claimed women didn’t have souls, and science claimed women were less intelligent than men because their heads were smaller. As my history teacher used to say, “The more things change, the more they stay the same.”

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          Akhila

          October 3, 2016 at 10:03am

          hmm.. it is pretty difficult to have a change in this dominion nature..but if there are more people like you, definitely there will be a betterment in the pathetic state of women gender..

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      Akhila

      October 2, 2016 at 4:28pm

      ha.. yes…forget the goodness of ahimsa and fight for justice when law fails..

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  19. MultidimensionalHE

    October 2, 2016 at 6:16pm

    Rape should never happen to anyone. All woman don’t rape and all men don’t rape. Perhaps something happened to rapist to make them commit acts of rape. That is not a pass for a rapist to rape. But again when people are hurt they hurt others. Example, a rapist rapes, their victim is now hurt and seeks justice and revenge. Victim closes themselves off to others losses trust for people, thinks people want to rape them again, knows not how to love… further hurting themselves or anyone who genuinely wants to love them. Victim is hurting themselves now because we all need love to survive. Hurt people again hurting people. Religions that promote rape are not religions at all.. it’s not even the religion, it’s the interpreter. Example, Christianity promotes man protecting wife. If you protect your wife, do you rape her. NO!! man and woman are equal. Hurt people divide the two makes some think one is over the other, vice versa. Bottom line rape should never happen to anyone. Looking for a solution to stop the hurtful cycle exist in the future not the past because it’s still happening. It’s like trying to stop people from killing each other. Compassion for victim’s of rape, murder, discrimination, poverty, disease.. do these things not all tie into each other somehow. To create either a victim or offended???

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      Akhila

      October 2, 2016 at 8:56pm

      it is neither on whether we are creating more victims nor more offenders…and how this topic’rape’ has become so common in todays world..is it not rooted in male dominance..? and whatever we talk on gender equality, the evilness is deeply rooted in our culture..and when the laws and all fails in such brutal cases, how could one pretend to be a saint..

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    Akhila

    October 2, 2016 at 9:05pm

    hmm.. sad it is..let me know what will be your first feeling

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  21. TylerLearnsToWrite

    October 2, 2016 at 10:29pm

    My initial feelings were why it no one helped.? Then I read a stat that the rapist is known individual to the victim most of the time – very high percent. Regarding the punishment – we as in the govt is unable to take or make strong punishment/law for such crime becoz the amount of false cases are also high.

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    Akhila

    October 3, 2016 at 9:58am

    hmm well.. next what, that’s my question.. we will sympathize or empathize and gradually the stories are forgotten.. by that time a new story begins..

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      • We come from dreams ~

        October 4, 2016 at 3:19pm

        Please, anyone who wants to stop the world-wide horror of rape should check out my latest post about a device developed by a South African medical worker named Sonette Ehlers. It’s called RapeX or RapaXe. There are links to three videos on our post.

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    Akhila

    October 4, 2016 at 10:41am

    exactly, now we are on the same lines..let the actions come before words

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  24. Beparvah !!

    October 4, 2016 at 9:28pm

    True picture..
    Am not in a position to say anything because lot had been said before ..

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        • We come from dreams ~

          October 4, 2016 at 10:36pm

          Beparvah!!, thank you for checking out our material about RapeX, and for liking so many of our posts. At this point we hope to make RapeX go viral, not so that we get attention – that’s NOT why we are at WordPress. If women worldwide can be safer from the depredations of men who think it is their right to sexually use others for their own sadistic pleasure, we’ll feel we’ve done a small bit to help. Who knows but that some enterprising woman in India – such as Gurumaa Anandmurti, who certainly looks out for women and girls – can finance or support making something similar.

          Ceannt

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          • Beparvah !!

            October 4, 2016 at 10:38pm

            I hope such and many more steps to be taken. Being in police service, I would love to deal with such creatures in my own way which would be certainly pre-emptive..

          • We come from dreams ~

            October 5, 2016 at 7:27am

            I wanted to think carefully about my response. Were I thirty or forty years younger and living in your jurisdiction in India, we would probably get along just fine. Where I am in the US, I was “on the other side,” so to speak, but throughout my life had cordial relations with a number of policemen. This was because we shared a number of ideals. Certain drugs bring guns; so we would often work together to get the gun carriers off the streets. Violence against children, especially rape, was not tolerated on either side; and so it goes. I’m 68 now, and luckily, survived, but I hope that across the world, real policemen (such as you seem to be) and the occasional honorable crook can work together for the common weal. May all that is good go with you, and – local blessing – be safe!

            Roy

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            Akhila

            October 5, 2016 at 9:35am

            thanks Roy..it is good to know that you are working for the common man,children and women

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      Akhila

      October 5, 2016 at 9:44am

      thanks chandrajit.. how things are going at your side..

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      • Beparvah !!

        October 5, 2016 at 9:45am

        As usual,
        Tainted, alone with one objective in mind.. and burning my energy in the training camp..

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          • Beparvah !!

            October 5, 2016 at 9:55am

            Pls do read my blog post the latest one.. am sure you will like it.. 🙂 it had some of the glimpses of it.. Will wait for your repose.. 🙂

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            Akhila

            October 5, 2016 at 10:04am

            yes… of course will read…wish you my heart full congrats..

          • Beparvah !!

            October 5, 2016 at 10:12am

            Thank you so much..
            You have always been a support

  25. O'Shine ORIGINAL

    October 6, 2016 at 11:15am

    . . . A man who rapes is an APE. He should be sent into the jungles. It’s unhuman to force an unwilling woman.

    Death to rapists.

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      Akhila

      October 6, 2016 at 12:53pm

      thanks for your words in agreement. ..now only i noticed the ape in a rape

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  27. Samantha

    December 3, 2016 at 2:50am

    So much truth here. There is an important message here. I would love for you to check out some of my posts here about experiences. I love having a support group. It is what keeps me going. Looking forward to your future posts!

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      Akhila

      December 3, 2016 at 1:08pm

      thanks Samntha.. will check your posts soon

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  28. My Theory

    December 16, 2016 at 10:47am

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