Don’t forget context while communicating

He: I am leaving. Keep it there.

She: What to keep? (thinking)

Either this could be a continuation of something they were talking about. If so, it is she who missed to catch it up. A tube-light girl.

Then the other possibility is, himself referring to something in his mind or something which he told her hours/days back. And he failed to communicate it properly. He is assuming that she knows the situation as he does and expects her to catch it up.

I have no ways to help the tube light girl as of now.. do you have any idea..?

Then on the other side, isn’t it very jerky to start the conversation without a single mention on the context. They start all of a sudden and give the listener a tougher time to cope with them.

The telepathic may dig into your mind and read what is unsaid. But we, all are not telepathic and can’t decode your words.

While communicating or listening, let us keep an eye on the context too and make it a smoother conversation.

About

The author is a Quality Assurance professional by experience. Part Quantitative data analyst, part consultant for quality and information security practices, part software tester, she is a writer by passion and blogs at http://wordsandnotion.com and http://qualitynotion.com/.

One thought on “Don’t forget context while communicating

  1. skd

    October 6, 2016 at 9:31am

    Akhila, good note:) It’s a common valid point.
    Esp(not only), online, Remote communications, the context is imp to make effective communication and reduce the “unwanted” assumptions in people. In your example, there is some confusion. But, I have seen cases where , when people listen “I am leaving. Keep it there”, they are already ready to keep a thing, which they think the thing is! 😉

    At home, many times, after the initial confusion(if any), we generate fun out of these kind of communication…gives real cool time among all of us with laughter 😉 [Where we have more chance to interact openly!]
    Have a great day with all communication with right contexts (to & fro)!

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      Akhila

      October 6, 2016 at 1:16pm

      may be we are in a hurry to miss these context while not only talking but listening also..

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      • skd

        October 6, 2016 at 1:37pm

        yes. Possible. Too many varied scenarios and situations our life….Yeah, lets try to “communicate” (C&L: Convey&Listen) well! 🙂

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          • skd

            October 6, 2016 at 2:13pm

            LuL: Liked u Liked….njan odi!
            (huh Evide vare odum ? lunch table! 😉

  2. prashantt

    October 6, 2016 at 9:36am

    Exactly..it is very important to keep the things clear and make the communication flow into error free way specially in working area as well in personal space.

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      Akhila

      October 6, 2016 at 1:06pm

      yes.. and you know rarely we meet such people in work area..at home, atleast we have an option to ask further.. what if during a client meet or conference..and I am quite sure you will knowing the impacts better than anyone, being into sales wing

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      • prashantt

        October 6, 2016 at 2:20pm

        In workspace it becomes more important to keep things transparent & yes,i keep everything clear in writing with my clients and clarify them with every aspect of deal whether its about stay,food or any services they opting for..though things are different in personal space we can control over it mostly.

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  3. Shalini Sharrma

    October 6, 2016 at 10:56am

    Hehehe… yes, your right, faced this situation esp. with mom, she mostly refer to something that i failed to understand while keeping that thing in mind, so i better try to ask her again – it is not bad to be called tube light if it works in good communication 😀

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      Akhila

      October 6, 2016 at 12:56pm

      does she respond every time in the same pace

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  4. Shreya Sharma

    October 6, 2016 at 11:53am

    happens!! I perceive it as some “secrets” he may have told her earlier and he want her not to disclose it now. 😛 😀

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    Akhila

    October 6, 2016 at 12:29pm

    ha ha.. you made me laugh…you summarized the entire thing in a few words..

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    Akhila

    October 6, 2016 at 12:32pm

    no issues in asking if the person is willing to reply.. but you know, many a times the other person becomes angry as the listener forgot about it..

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  8. boundlessblessingsblog

    October 6, 2016 at 1:55pm

    On the dot you have said it so rightly. Both need to listen and say with content or the conversation will be totally one sided. Context is very much needed. Good post.

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      Akhila

      October 6, 2016 at 4:50pm

      thanks kamal..you know, it’s an art to express your mind to the listener in the most pleasing way..and contextual information plays a key role over there

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  9. Such Different Skies

    October 6, 2016 at 10:10pm

    Yes I do agree…context plays a very major role…Once we fail in conveying the exact context then its a complete failure…

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      Akhila

      October 6, 2016 at 10:14pm

      ya..exactly..it is often difficult to catch up

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  10. 2ndhalfolife

    October 6, 2016 at 10:34pm

    Funny you should post this. It’s not just about men/women. Most people don’t ‘listen’ not just when texting but when communicating in general. I have a manager who doesn’t listen at all. Part of it is due to the fact she feels she is always right, another reason is that she talks over people instead of letting people finish what they are saying. It happened twice to me today. I find it’s annoying and frustrating. And then when she’s wrong, so won’t admit it…this becomes even doubly frustrating. But now I will usually just say: OK, whatever you say because there’s no winning with her. 🙂

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      Akhila

      October 6, 2016 at 10:37pm

      ha.. i think this post was specifically meant for your experience..;)

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  11. Jackie Jain

    October 6, 2016 at 11:27pm

    Haha. . I have been on the receiving end of this situation many a times. That’s why it is important to put our point well so that the receiver can understand our written words. Sometimes people think that they and their receiver share the same brain so they don’t convey their thought clearly and thus the confusion comes into play. So we have to be careful while thinking and clear in expressing it while communicating with others.

    Good night, Akhila. 🙂

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      Akhila

      October 7, 2016 at 10:26am

      thanks jackie..being on the receiving end, you might have understood the importance of fruitful conversation.

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      • Jackie Jain

        October 7, 2016 at 11:07am

        Yes I think clarity is more important in conversation than the length of the conversation. Good morning. Have a great day. 🙂

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  12. Alok Singhal

    October 6, 2016 at 11:48pm

    Yes, that’s an important point of effective communication…else it is not a two-way conversation.

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      Akhila

      October 7, 2016 at 10:18am

      exactly..then it cannot be a two way communication..

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    Akhila

    October 7, 2016 at 10:05am

    ha ha.. i am not at all an exception to this ..donno why I am happy so meet someone in the same boat..;)

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  14. Mithai Mumblezz

    October 7, 2016 at 10:13am

    One of those toughest moments of communication is when someone says something…… but the way they say it……in intangible…. and you ask them to repeat it and even after the 3rd time it still doesn’t make sense and just nod your heard :p :p
    Probably just told you their plan to murder someone and you are like, ‘okk!’

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  15. fluffysteps

    October 9, 2016 at 12:08pm

    A lot of times, we get into arguments simply because of miscommunication or misunderstandings.

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      Akhila

      October 9, 2016 at 1:53pm

      exactly.. conversations are easily misinterpreted due to this missing contextual information

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