Feel free to say NO

It was challenging for me to say a no,

As it was tough for me to upset you.

Hence I was behind a yes even though,

I lacked my space and ease with a yes.

 

I know, they are only my real friends,

Who make me guilt free to say a no.

Who make me feel at ease to say a no.

Who respect my freedom of expression.

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The author is a Quality Assurance professional by experience. Part Quantitative data analyst, part consultant for quality and information security practices, part software tester, she is a writer by passion and blogs at http://wordsandnotion.com and http://qualitynotion.com/.

One thought on “Feel free to say NO

  1. novelistbaba

    November 3, 2016 at 9:12am

    every yes
    is too much,
    where, there
    can never
    be a no.

    true words……great poem……loved it! 🙂

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          Akhila

          November 3, 2016 at 10:39am

          i remember commenting on your evolution of a dream.. but seems your spam caught it..;)

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          • novelistbaba

            November 3, 2016 at 10:45am

            oh sorry……i just checked it……and this stupid “spam code” had caught it……i gave it a few clicks of my hand…….so it ought to teach it a lesson 🙂 🙂

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            Akhila

            November 3, 2016 at 10:46am

            ha ha…i am also fed up of these spam issues.. why is it so common nowadays..?

          • novelistbaba

            November 3, 2016 at 10:49am

            well stupid people have smart phones…..we have to suffer the fireworks! 🙂 🙂

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            Akhila

            November 3, 2016 at 11:11am

            ha ha..lol is it due to smart phones….

          • novelistbaba

            November 3, 2016 at 11:12am

            maybe…….they don’t seem any smarter than the user!

  2. Idle Muser

    November 3, 2016 at 9:17am

    It’s important to learn to say NO. And much more important to stay surrounded with the ones who do not question that NO.

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      Akhila

      November 3, 2016 at 10:29am

      yes Aditi.. we are on the same lines…if we have that true relationship, they will never make us fall into that confusion. they will leave it to our freedom, respecting our space.

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  3. ecstacy49

    November 3, 2016 at 9:37am

    It’s a big word indeed and people take it as a rude reply. But believe it, it’s the hardest thing one can do or say.

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      Akhila

      November 3, 2016 at 10:36am

      yes, it is the hardest word, I should say…but we need to learn to say it without being rude

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      • ecstacy49

        November 3, 2016 at 11:30am

        Yes sure. But then people take it in a rude way. It’s like denying for something makes one feel bad. It’s a tendency.

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          Akhila

          November 3, 2016 at 7:48pm

          Ya…i just donno why they can’t respect our space

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          • ecstacy49

            November 4, 2016 at 12:07am

            I know right. But it’s like everyone does it about 90%of the individuals.

  4. myheartbeats4ublog

    November 3, 2016 at 9:42am

    Yes, ‘No’ is not a preferred /easy option, especially when the apprehension of hurting someone close, who, you feel would prefer a ‘Yes’. But those with the courage of conviction to say ‘No’ need not feel guilty, for, their real friends would understand & appreciate the genuineness of that ‘No’.

    And, very much yes, ma’am akhila, a beautiful post. cheers

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  5. tingleurtastebuds

    November 3, 2016 at 10:00am

    Yeah true. Sometimes you just cannot say that small word NO. But it is better to say NO rather than say a Yes and regret later.

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      Akhila

      November 3, 2016 at 10:20am

      you are right…tell me frankly, how do you win over it..?

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    Akhila

    November 3, 2016 at 10:06am

    you reflect my feelings chithra…at times we feel a bit hard to say a no even when we dont really want to lose our comfort zone..

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    Akhila

    November 3, 2016 at 10:12am

    i am learning that art of saying ‘no’..;)…Really tough…even i feel like i couldnt express it fully in those few lines..didnt have a punch in those words..

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    Akhila

    November 3, 2016 at 10:25am

    and most importantly, if they are are genuine friends, they wont compel us to do something against our will

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  13. Tanya

    November 3, 2016 at 12:36pm

    Aahhhh! I get you. I struggle with saying no. I have to learn that I can’t please everybody. And that it’s human to say no.

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      Akhila

      November 3, 2016 at 1:51pm

      i read somewhere like” interesting ways to say a no”

      Arrow writes, commented like “be sarcastic”..sounds a nice way..;)

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  14. Bikramjit

    November 3, 2016 at 12:36pm

    Oh yes the dilemma of upsetting someone.. No Is a beautiful word..We all need ti learn it..

    I am.learning tooo the hard way…

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  15. thewritewomanblog

    November 3, 2016 at 12:51pm

    I cannot agree with you more, Akhila! A post with a lot of relevance to what I just had in my mind. It is the most difficult word to speak out sometimes without hurting someone and without them misunderstanding your answer to be rejection or downright denial. “Who respect my freedom of expression.” so well expressed! Yes, you need to express your views and expression. Thank you for sharing!

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      Akhila

      November 3, 2016 at 1:43pm

      thank you so much.. i think i should added this title ‘ who respect my freedom of expression’

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  16. Cattie's World

    November 3, 2016 at 3:41pm

    Its Okay to say ‘No’. But some people kill themselves by saying Yes and then end up all frustrated.

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  17. Cattie's World

    November 3, 2016 at 3:42pm

    Like the Boss says to you , “Come here and polish my shoes”. And You should have the Courage to say “No”.

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  18. Ameena k.g

    November 3, 2016 at 3:58pm

    Ohhhh yes! I love this Akhila. Real friends would not make you feel guilty for saying No, rather they would respect it

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      Akhila

      November 3, 2016 at 4:45pm

      ya…it’s a great reminder in our stressed life..

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  19. Puneet

    November 3, 2016 at 5:19pm

    Well, it gets very tough for me to say No.

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  20. durgakrishnan

    November 3, 2016 at 6:15pm

    So difficult yet true. I reckon many struggle to do it knowing the importance of doing it. Great post and a reminder to all. 😉

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    Akhila

    November 3, 2016 at 7:28pm

    In connection to the onam festival..he visits earth once in year on onam day…

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  22. durgakrishnan

    November 3, 2016 at 7:29pm

    Lol! Well I am yet to get to being peaceful soul in all the times but it surely is difficult and sometimes I chose to make it impossible 🙂

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      Akhila

      November 3, 2016 at 7:31pm

      Is it..will have a difficult one for tomorrow, a brain teaser..let me if you answer that…

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    Akhila

    November 3, 2016 at 7:40pm

    Very very true….just be more and more patient

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    Akhila

    November 3, 2016 at 7:43pm

    Oh…then what happens to your sarcasm..use it when you are used…

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    • Tanya

      November 3, 2016 at 10:01pm

      I can’t be rude to people. Like people in general. I am scared that people will not like me if I say no to them. I know it’s stupid but it is what it is. 🙂

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  25. Jackie Jain

    November 3, 2016 at 8:24pm

    Yes very true Akhila. . I can relate to this and most of us can relate to this as we face it daily. There are only a few people with whom we feel at ease of saying no. With others, we just try to please them and say yes even though inside we know we wanted to say ‘no’.. People with whom we feel free to talk irrespective of whether they will agree or disagree upon, are real friends. .

    Good evening. 🙂

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      Akhila

      November 3, 2016 at 8:54pm

      Ya..there will be very few like that with whom we can freely express a no.,,

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  26. Cattie's World

    November 4, 2016 at 12:28pm

    Everywhere, some nerd people are licking their bosses boots, to get promotions and favors.

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  27. Maniparna Sengupta Majumder

    November 7, 2016 at 5:18am

    Saying No is an art also. One of my friends, she does it very well..she can say ‘no’ without making others angry! I’m sort of dumb…I blatantly say ‘no’ and as you’ve said, only true friends can take that. And, we don’t have a lot of true friends…

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