Never rescue your kids from mistakes

Never rescue your kids from mistakes. If you do, they will just continue the same and never learn to improve. So in effect, parents are spoiling their kids by allowing them to commit the mistakes repeatedly. Instead have a protective eye, ensure their safety, warn them on the consequences, still if they are continuing with their mistakes,  let them do it. They will learn naturally from their consequences. And why not build up some harmless consequences, if they are not learning naturally..;)

And on the other side, if you are not enforcing those rules and disciplinary actions, kids will feel really bad, like you are not bothered on them.. So never hesitate to have disciplinary actions. So switch the mode very often.

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The author is a Quality Assurance professional by experience. Part Quantitative data analyst, part consultant for quality and information security practices, part software tester, she is a writer by passion and blogs at http://wordsandnotion.com and http://qualitynotion.com/.

One thought on “Never rescue your kids from mistakes

  1. sudershana

    November 10, 2016 at 10:43am

    Haha, that seems I am a spoiled child, haha. Jokes apart, more often I am tied by the rules like a strict timing for the hangout, that’s okay I don’t like to hangout. After having a wardrobe full of clothes not a single place left, and realizing it I have to donate some of my new clothes to the caretaker, there is strict restriction on my shopping, which I don’t like

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      Akhila

      November 10, 2016 at 2:22pm

      restriction on shoping.. it is good, no…

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          Akhila

          November 10, 2016 at 2:31pm

          you naughty girl…let me talk to your parents 😉

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          • sudershana

            November 10, 2016 at 4:13pm

            They will definitely share the same perspective as you have. Then also I love this thing about them, strange but true when they don’t stop me for something I started thinking are they upset?

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      Akhila

      November 10, 2016 at 2:21pm

      yes Pragalbha…give them enough flexibility, but with a protective eye always

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  2. theonlysup

    November 10, 2016 at 10:55am

    Before I could comment please let me know kids of what age are u referring to ??

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      Akhila

      November 10, 2016 at 2:20pm

      ya, i should have mentioned it.. definitely not infants, but could be school going kids..

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    Akhila

    November 10, 2016 at 2:23pm

    there is a mother in all of us, including you

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    • Steve

      November 10, 2016 at 2:27pm

      Yeah Offcou….. Out of which, I said, you seem to be good…..excluding me…..

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  5. theonlysup

    November 10, 2016 at 2:29pm

    well yes . i agree with point about making them aware of the consequences since u mentioned school going kids, they are pretty much vulnerable to wrong doing which can be a result of many external factors including friends , family.these kids are keen observers and have low acceptance level and are willing to do what you restrict them to do often. so rather screen , scolding hitting , its always important for parents to make them understand the consequences . some time i will have to agree with u akhila 😉

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    Akhila

    November 10, 2016 at 2:47pm

    let them say, but what do you wanna say?

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        Akhila

        November 10, 2016 at 2:51pm

        asked her.. but you already have a 60 year old voice, no.. so why cannt you

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    Akhila

    November 10, 2016 at 4:33pm

    it’s not my words chitra.. i heard it somewhere…yes it was a hijack upon hari..;)

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  8. skd

    November 10, 2016 at 6:11pm

    Have you seen the new short film from Pixar? Its called Piper. Please do not miss it. Show to you hus and kids as well…in just 6 minutes, it touches our heart and reminds us some values and facts in life. So deep 🙂
    I bet, you will love it:)

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    Akhila

    November 10, 2016 at 8:09pm

    Thanks shiva sir… Definitely will check it out soon

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    Akhila

    November 10, 2016 at 8:20pm

    Have a look at his 24 th heartbeat, if time permits

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  11. Shalini Sharrma

    November 10, 2016 at 10:55pm

    I always appreciate when kids do learn naturally but again as u said disciplinary actions are important to condition them right ways.. Good one.. 🙂

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  13. Sweta Ojha

    November 11, 2016 at 11:39am

    Switch the mode is definitely the best code. The truth and very well said. 🙂

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  14. girlandworld

    November 12, 2016 at 12:00am

    It’s harsh but really one of the much needed advice to today’s parents

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      Akhila

      November 12, 2016 at 11:15am

      be harsh and soft..be strict and flexible..

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    Akhila

    November 12, 2016 at 5:43pm

    ente aswathikkutty, vayaru niranju….thiruppathiyayi…

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  16. shellysopinion

    January 6, 2017 at 4:08am

    As a young mom I really do struggle at times, thanks for sharing, it helps.

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      Akhila

      January 6, 2017 at 9:29am

      Thanks a lot for sharing your views..have more fun time with your kids

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  17. Naimah Ra'idah

    January 9, 2017 at 1:59am

    You are absolutely correct! Kids have to make their own mistakes and learn from their own experiences.

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      Akhila

      January 9, 2017 at 11:12am

      Thanks you naimah..i can feel a motherly hand behind these words

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      Akhila

      January 10, 2017 at 9:48pm

      Is it..hope you are excelling in the same

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