She is not an object

She is not a toy for men’s pleasure. Everywhere we see protest going on against female trading. Yes, many a times, she is trapped into prostitution.

Even then, there is another side for this objectification. She herself accounts herself as an object for his satisfaction. She is treating herself as a sex object. She is stereotyped to live in that way. And rarely does she understand her own mind-trap. It’s all about interpretation.

So Girls, wake up and most importantly awaken your sisters.

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The author is a Quality Assurance professional by experience. Part Quantitative data analyst, part consultant for quality and information security practices, part software tester, she is a writer by passion and blogs at http://wordsandnotion.com and http://qualitynotion.com/.

One thought on “She is not an object

  1. Divyang Shah

    February 8, 2017 at 9:16am

    It’s like 100 people say you are bad, you start feeling like I am bad..

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          Akhila

          February 8, 2017 at 11:47pm

          It wont be that easy to think for her or him breaking the cocoon of prejudices..

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  2. boundlessblessingsblog

    February 8, 2017 at 10:09am

    Absolutely true Akhila, we all have been trapped too long have to get up and dare to live our lives the way we want. A great post and yes the woman too become very complacent once they enter this field.

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  3. pins & ashes

    February 8, 2017 at 10:13am

    more complicated!

    prostitution is a full fledged profession, I think we should respect the people who are involved rather than look down on them, (men and women), make laws so that they are not abused or ill treated because they are in flesh trade!

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      Akhila

      February 8, 2017 at 11:34pm

      It’s complicated in the way that Not many people are escaped from the thought of objectification, being prostitutes or not..

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      • pins & ashes

        February 9, 2017 at 3:37am

        Objectification is more complicated that this! it requires a series of conversation. you should have been there when we were making fun of being a misogynist last night and how every phrase and act we do, can be misogynistic and objectification, and how it is that natural!

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  4. jennifergem

    February 8, 2017 at 11:44am

    Prostitution is Carried out illegally. Girls are being abducted, tricked and pushed into flesh trading. They are forced. They don’t go all by themselves

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      Akhila

      February 8, 2017 at 11:38pm

      True..most girls are trapped into a flesh trading world.. And sadly end up, haunted by thought of objectification

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  5. shreyans

    February 8, 2017 at 12:14pm

    this is so true and sad..thanks for bringing this up..everyone should understand the need behind it…
    shreyans

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      • Mick Canning

        February 9, 2017 at 12:19am

        It comes down to joint responsibility between government and society to ensure adequate opportunities. But without education, there is no chance of attitudes and understanding improving.

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          Akhila

          February 9, 2017 at 2:11pm

          What i feel is the lessons should start from home since a child birth… Stop using words like,’dont cry like a girl’

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    • Vinayak Gupta

      February 9, 2017 at 12:26am

      its not just about the education, its about the mentality, about the atmosphere she live in…

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      • Mick Canning

        February 9, 2017 at 2:41am

        I agree. And the only way to alter that mentality is through education, I think. The education of both boys and girls to understand that women have the same rights as men, and deserving of the same respect.

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        Akhila

        February 9, 2017 at 2:06pm

        They way a child is treated since birth..the cultural and stereotypical impacts…everything accounts. And she needs to realise this irrespective of being a prostitute or not

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  6. gserpent

    February 8, 2017 at 3:12pm

    You are absolutely right. Women are not objects. Objectivity of women started with patriarchy.

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      Akhila

      February 8, 2017 at 11:50pm

      Hmm.. It may be deep rooted in patriarchy system….

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  7. sparklingpoems

    February 8, 2017 at 3:15pm

    Yes she is not an object to play with. But uneducated, orphan girls are often dragged into this shameful act, just for money. This must come to an end, but corrupt men don’t let it happen. What we all can do is spread awareness….

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      Akhila

      February 9, 2017 at 12:04am

      Spreading awareness and helping our sisters to raise their own esteem. Infact this happens not only with female trading, even in every common houses…

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    • Confused Thoughts

      February 9, 2017 at 7:19am

      I am sorry ! I was just reading all comments , I noticed you have used the word uneducated , orphan girl
      Sorry but I experienced in real life most of well educated and modern society girl are involved because of their high life style and in Delhi NCR call girl service providers are running their services with the help of them .
      Topic is so wide so I would like to say awareness should be first priority

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      • sparklingpoems

        February 9, 2017 at 12:07pm

        Yes I agree that awareness should be the first priority. We can understand about uneducated and orphan girls,but why educated girls are involved I don’t know. Maybe because of addictions or maybe for money.
        I think they all are aware of their shameful act, but their addictions drag them there.

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          Akhila

          February 9, 2017 at 1:52pm

          It’s really painful when girls do this knowingly…

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  8. totallytales

    February 8, 2017 at 5:35pm

    And many a time it is so difficult for her to throw away the shackles of objectification…

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  9. Samantha

    February 8, 2017 at 6:23pm

    The way we see women and the way we treat them (and each other) has to change! Beautiful words, Akhila. Let’s hope a lot of people will listen to them 🙂

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      Akhila

      February 8, 2017 at 11:18pm

      Yes..first of all she needs to break the prejudices ..she herself should come out of this kinda objectification.

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  10. Vinayak Gupta

    February 9, 2017 at 12:24am

    🙁 An incident of my life… 🙁
    TO EVERYONE,
    Not only uneducated girl , educated girls also use this way to get easy money…
    and sometimes their situation force them to do so and they start loving this life not caring about their image in the society. They don’t damn care about anyone!!!
    Much experienced about this thing

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      Akhila

      February 9, 2017 at 2:07pm

      Thanks for Sharing another picture of the reality. Yes there are girls like that.. They are least bothered on societal image..and yes, why should they…

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  11. A

    February 9, 2017 at 5:38am

    It’s a result of cultural conditioning. Women have fallen victim for patriarchy for many years. Glorification of motherhood was also a big ploy of the patriarchal society. To be honest many women are not ready to break the cages and free their mind. Getting married at a particular age and if someone doesn’t making her look like a failure and breaking her confidence is also a way of the patriarchal society to oppress women. women have to understand fact she can offer much more than her body. Having said that , there are lot of women who are gold diggers … If you know what I mean ..

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    • Confused Thoughts

      February 9, 2017 at 7:23am

      Sorry it is the result of modern society !
      I don’t want any debate so I am not gonna taking any mess but every question have perfect answer
      So please don’t blame our culture .
      Culture don’t say to any man go and use the women atleast Hinduism does not have any lession like this
      So please don’t distract the topic .
      I am so sorry I can’t help it cz I am outspoken and little bit weird

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      • pins & ashes

        February 9, 2017 at 10:25am

        I’d really love to hear you out, and your take on how modern society created this! good to know both sides, feels incomplete without the other 😛

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        • Confused Thoughts

          February 9, 2017 at 12:11pm

          I admit my mistake actually mam I really did not aware about you all
          I admit my mistake cz I m lil bit weird sorry mam

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            Akhila

            February 9, 2017 at 12:59pm

            Everyone has their own opinions. it’s one’s call to take it seriously or not.. it doesnt actually imply that the other side was wrong.. Interpretations varies while the ultimate intention is not to treat her as an object.

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            Akhila

            February 9, 2017 at 1:01pm

            And you are absolutely free to express your views..no offense and so need to apologize and all.. 🙂
            cool..

          • Confused Thoughts

            February 9, 2017 at 1:13pm

            I appreciate your view but not all are good reader or listener as well
            Then why I will do any mess
            So it’s better I admit my mistake

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  12. Confused Thoughts

    February 9, 2017 at 7:51am

    I am sorry !
    You should stop writing about hinduism now it’s my heartly request !
    Cz I don’t want any debate it will be messy if I give the answers

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  13. Confused Thoughts

    February 9, 2017 at 7:53am

    Cz I can predict the mental level of everyone by their words and you respresented it nicely

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  14. Confused Thoughts

    February 9, 2017 at 7:58am

    Right way !
    If you were talking about sati ?
    Please tell me have you ever read any Purana or granth
    If you read then show me in which Purana , sati Paratha is mentioned

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      • Confused Thoughts

        February 9, 2017 at 8:02am

        Yes I read that not means history is Hinduism , which event you have discussed was just bad memory but you also know what was the end of that bad event
        Ravan was killed and in Mahabharata pandava killed the all kauravs
        Also bhim took out the blood of that person who tried to touch the draupadi .
        But why you will care about them
        Cz you wanted to do sarcasm

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        • A

          February 9, 2017 at 8:20am

          But what about the man who would abuse his wife and treat her as an object ? What of the man who abandoned his wife ? If Ravan was bad how could sita be called as chaste woman ? If sita is chaste why call Ravan bad ? What of the man who indulged in violence against a woman for just proposing him ?

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          • Confused Thoughts

            February 9, 2017 at 8:28am

            Again you picked up clueless point
            Go and study the jobs of a king and then make any debate
            If you don’t want then keep it up .

  15. Confused Thoughts

    February 9, 2017 at 7:59am

    Do you think Mahabharata and Ramayana is the base of hinduism , I think you don’t know Hinduism is thousands of year old than the period of Ramayana

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  16. Confused Thoughts

    February 9, 2017 at 8:26am

    Who said to you ?
    You still have not answered
    Have you ever read any Purana !
    After make any sarcasm
    I know you have lot of problems with word Hinduism but all will be cleared if you read atleast 10-20 pages of any Purana

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  17. pins & ashes

    February 9, 2017 at 9:46am

    and there he begins! are you two done talking and come to peace or is there still scope of me sitting with a pack of popcorn? 😛

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  18. pins & ashes

    February 9, 2017 at 9:47am

    Kashtam! Should have logged in earlier! And added spice, some tadka

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  19. pins & ashes

    February 9, 2017 at 9:50am

    If it not were culture and traditional. And society who would take the blame silently for objectifying the woman! Paaavam no

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    • A

      February 9, 2017 at 10:51am

      who should be blamed ?

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      • pins & ashes

        February 9, 2017 at 11:06am

        Let’s make a list. Culture and tradition are too big terms. Not all of them, some of them..

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  20. Joker Shayar

    February 10, 2017 at 5:18pm

    Reblogged this on Dreams Unintended and commented:
    Sharing these lings of Pakistani Poet “Sara Shagufta” here with you all :

    औरत का बदन ही उसका वतन नहीं होता, वह कुछ और भी है !
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    ,
    पौरुष का परचम लिए घूमने वालों, औरत जमीन नहीं कुछ और भी है..!!

    Woman’s body is not her only homeland, She is something else too..

    TO all, who are waving the flag of Manhood everywhere, the woman is not a land or property only, She means something else too.. !!

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  21. voiceofastranger

    February 11, 2017 at 3:39pm

    wonderful and eye opening post. Girl/women aren’t objects they are people who keep pushing people to be successful, one who could stand by his man’s side when he enjoys his success..:)

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      Akhila

      February 11, 2017 at 8:22pm

      Are you trying to emphasize the saying, a woman is there behind the success of every man

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      Akhila

      February 11, 2017 at 8:20pm

      Btwn, why do you think that i am mr b…definitely can’t be, no

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  22. thewritewomanblog

    February 14, 2017 at 2:08pm

    This post has got a lot of attention and definitely a lot of opinions. I think it is a little more than just culture or education. I think that for a society to function, a man and a woman should align themselves and their rights in harmony as one cannot live without the other. Education and awareness is the key but respecting one self is equally important. Respecting yourself as much as you respect one another will create the right balance, a full- fledged war on proving one sex better than the other is only going to cause more anger that further brings up a very confused generation of people.

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  23. bisimodupe1975

    March 3, 2017 at 1:27pm

    Reblogged this on femininematerz and commented:
    This post by Akhila really caught my attention. Girls, women, sisters, ladies you are not an object, you are a human being with purpose. You are not a sex object to live only to satisfy men… You are much more.

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      Akhila

      March 3, 2017 at 8:43pm

      Thank you so much bisim.. We have to support our sisters,let her realize the fact

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      Akhila

      March 6, 2017 at 4:50pm

      You know jacque, even while we blame on these patriarchal system, there is one thing which is easily ignored.. that’s her attitude towards the issue. Many a times she is only objectifying herself, treating herself as a sex object, and its not the man to be blamed for that. And yes, she was tuned to live in that way and now it requires immense pressure to make her understand the real scenario..

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