Do you love me out of true love or out of responsibility?

Do you love me out of true love or out of responsibility?

A question with every lovers..

But I will say, “You won’t get an immediate answer. Waite and see”

What do you say and which one do you prefer – the morally aided love or unconditional love?

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One thought on “Do you love me out of true love or out of responsibility?

  1. Sangbad

    February 22, 2017 at 9:06am

    Both are dangerous, both are not. If you ask me I’ll prefer an amalgamation of the two…proportion is in own hands…

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  2. mylittlepursuitsofhappyness

    February 22, 2017 at 9:34am

    When you love unconditionally, responsibility comes along with it naturally, but if loves comes with the responsibility of giving love because of certain conditions then it won’t flourish.

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      Akhila

      February 22, 2017 at 10:26am

      That’s it.. I agree with you fully.. Responsibility comes in natually in true love.. It’s actually embedded..no need to even think about it..

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  3. Pinkspen

    February 22, 2017 at 9:37am

    Beautifully said…. I have asked myself this in my relationship, and i always pray that love prevails. thank you for sharing. Please check out my blog. I would love your feedback!v

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      Akhila

      February 22, 2017 at 10:09am

      Thanks a lot for your feedback.. Yes, true love always prevails.. I too believe in ‘love out of love’

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  4. buddy71

    February 22, 2017 at 10:00am

    one should be responsible in/with love and treat it like one would if cultivating a plant. it must be cared for. if left alone, it will wither and die.

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      Akhila

      February 22, 2017 at 10:02am

      Thanks a lot for your words. I respect your views even though my mind can’t agree to that..

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      • buddy71

        February 22, 2017 at 10:03am

        It’s OK to disagree. If we all thought alike…how boring life would be.

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          Akhila

          February 22, 2017 at 10:05am

          Thanks a lot for understanding. You are right, if everyone thinks alike, the would would have been less challenging

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      Akhila

      February 22, 2017 at 10:03am

      Thanks.. But do you mind letting us know what do you think on this…

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    Akhila

    February 22, 2017 at 10:19am

    Hmm.. Good to know this..responsibilities are always based on some moral codes. Isnt it… So do you think that you love your kids or loved ones because you have to do that, it’s your duty or responsibility …

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    • Letters That Matter

      February 22, 2017 at 10:23am

      No No I don’t love someone because I have to do that. I love them that’s why I do that for them. I think they are two different things

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      Akhila

      February 22, 2017 at 11:53am

      So what’s that definition of unconditional love..

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      • Reflection of Observer

        February 22, 2017 at 5:02pm

        No definition. If anyone try to define, it will conditional..lol
        Love =Love♥♥
        Don’t ask definition of love..jagratee

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  6. foreverjunoon

    February 22, 2017 at 12:16pm

    प्यार किया है तो निभाना है
    निभाना है तो हर जिम्मेदारी उठाना है लेकिन वो भी प्यार से औपचारिकता या दबाव से नहीं।सम्मान आधारशिला है।

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      Akhila

      February 22, 2017 at 12:20pm

      If duty is cominng out of love, yes it’s agreeable..but not viceversa..

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      • foreverjunoon

        February 22, 2017 at 7:15pm

        When we love someone responsblities are being fulfiled automatically

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          Akhila

          February 22, 2017 at 8:56pm

          Yess.. It will happen naturally.. But you can’t sustain in a long term relationship purely out of responsibility alone ..that’s what i feel

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          • foreverjunoon

            February 22, 2017 at 10:24pm

            They are in combo.And one thing more conditions and responsblities are different.Why guys are raising the matter of unconditional love.

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            Akhila

            February 23, 2017 at 6:09pm

            Ha. I liked your motive behind the last question

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    Akhila

    February 22, 2017 at 1:19pm

    Lol.. You have become predictable now, atleast for me

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  8. theonlysup

    February 22, 2017 at 1:33pm

    with love comes responsibilities.. so you cannot deny both . you love and hence you are morally socially emotionally financially responsible for each other’s life dream desires etc..

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      Akhila

      February 22, 2017 at 4:24pm

      Hmm.. The practical approach, i should say.. But my mind wont agree to that fully

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          Akhila

          February 22, 2017 at 4:33pm

          ☺ i respect that and obviously people need to have difference in opinions..otherwise we may all look alike…it will be so boring, no

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          • theonlysup

            February 22, 2017 at 4:35pm

            ofcourse .. my perspective are many a times different than yours .. nothing wrong.. thats how we grow.. by respecting the differences isnt it 🙂 thanks akhila . keep writing such thought provoking post

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  9. Jothish Joseph

    February 22, 2017 at 1:41pm

    It’s like the phrase, “Caught between the devil and the deep blue sea.” Not in the sense that they are dangerous, but it’s a really tough choice. Love is so confusing at times that it’s hard to actually answer such a thought provoking question. Like every human is unique, so is their concept about love. Nobody is ever satisfied with any answer about love.
    Of the answer is “out of responsibility,” then the retuen question would be “am I a burden?” And if the answer is “true love,” the counter question would be “really?”
    The best answer would be to say, “Look into my eyes and find the answer by yourself, my answer is beyond words!”

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  10. kawsreflections

    February 22, 2017 at 3:22pm

    Very beautiful. I love everyone unconditionally. Unconditional love is the only way to end all the hate and anger that’s in our world today.

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    Akhila

    February 22, 2017 at 4:10pm

    But i expected the peanuts and cashew nuts

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    Akhila

    February 22, 2017 at 4:13pm

    Thanks andy. I agree with you. I too dont want to be loved out of responsibility…

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  13. Confused Thoughts

    February 22, 2017 at 4:22pm

    Actually I am confused !
    Still have no answer but now I will start finding the answer

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      • Confused Thoughts

        February 22, 2017 at 4:35pm

        Lack of experience I would like to say I don’t know but if we think about parent or siblings then it shows their unconditional love so I can say yes I would like to prefer unconditional !

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          Akhila

          February 22, 2017 at 4:36pm

          That’s a nice answer.. And i wish you to have more personal experiences asap..

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  14. A

    February 22, 2017 at 4:24pm

    Unconditional always

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      Akhila

      February 23, 2017 at 6:15pm

      Say, there shouldn’t be any conditions like he or she should love me only..in this way..?

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    Akhila

    February 22, 2017 at 4:30pm

    Oh.. Anyway i should think that, no.. So will see next time again

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  16. Shweta Suresh

    February 22, 2017 at 4:42pm

    Very deep thought indeed. Everyone wants unconditional love but I think sometimes people settle for far less because of the illusion of true, unconditional love.

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      Akhila

      February 22, 2017 at 8:29pm

      Thanks shweta..many a times people are forced to compromise…the sad reality

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  17. Varsh

    February 22, 2017 at 4:55pm

    Both have their own charm. Wouldn’t we want to be loved unconditionally by someone and because we are related to our parents and siblings?

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  18. prashantt

    February 22, 2017 at 5:50pm

    Ahaaa….my kind of question first time on your board haha..lol!
    To be very honest where there is a true love there comes a responsibilty and yes true love is unconditional but when it comes your way you enjoys the responsibilities attached to it too.

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      Akhila

      February 22, 2017 at 8:04pm

      Love varies from people to people.. it’s okay when responsibilities are attached to that, or rather responsibility comes in naturally.. But i don’t think the vice versa would be true..

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      • prashantt

        February 22, 2017 at 9:28pm

        You might be right as i haven’t came across to the responsibilities yet so morever my opinion is based on observations only.

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  19. Moushmi Radhanpara

    February 22, 2017 at 7:32pm

    A very thoughtful post.
    We always want the unconditional love but then not all of us get such pure love.

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      Akhila

      February 22, 2017 at 8:56pm

      Hmm.. That’s sad that all of us are not blessed like that..

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    Akhila

    February 22, 2017 at 8:54pm

    Thanks priya. So where did you reach now…

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    Akhila

    February 22, 2017 at 9:58pm

    Agree with you priya.. Once we realize it’s love, everything happens automatically

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  22. tingleurtastebuds

    February 23, 2017 at 3:02am

    Love can only come be true. The responsibility will come because of that true love. Hope I am clear.
    Meena

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      Akhila

      February 23, 2017 at 5:50pm

      Thanks meena.. As you said responsibilities or whatever may join love gradually on a long run.. But it will happen automatically..isnt it

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  23. Meenakshi Sethi

    February 23, 2017 at 4:44am

    Responsibilities don’t even feel like burden in unconditional love since that love has no conditions, it is free and selfless. For me only unconditional love is love all other is just business!

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      Akhila

      February 23, 2017 at 5:43pm

      Yes..i know your answer meenakshi.. And i have no doubt upon that unconditional

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  24. Shiva Malekopmath

    February 23, 2017 at 1:49pm

    True Love or Responsible Love, that’s a very interesting question.
    I feel Love grows and matures as time passes by, the give and take, the understanding for each other, the concern for one another, so on and so forth that you can say is true Love which is also responsible.
    Conditions are Unconditional when it comes to Love.
    Good One,
    Regards,
    Shiva

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      Akhila

      February 23, 2017 at 5:15pm

      Thanks shiva sir.. I agree with you on the growing love.. Yes it grows and matures. Nothing can beat true love..It’s always unconditional

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      • Shiva Malekopmath

        February 23, 2017 at 5:22pm

        Akhila I was just thinking about your post only.
        Is there anything called as Responsible Love, I think it shall not be. It is more of a duty bound but not Love at all. I hope you understand.

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          Akhila

          February 23, 2017 at 6:23pm

          Duty bound love is there..it’s happening all around.. Maybe you know it better than me..as you said, it cannot be called as love, that i agree

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  25. crashingstone

    February 23, 2017 at 7:10pm

    Lol quiet a imaginative mind you have.. Btw where did your mind wander to after “there”

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  26. Joker Shayar

    February 23, 2017 at 7:13pm

    true love brings the responsibility i think…

    but every responsibility doesn’t bring love with it …

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  27. theonlysup

    February 24, 2017 at 7:32am

    Bhai pyar ka puchnama bhool gaya ?? Just kidding .. Yes I’ll reply to this soon in more detail Sumit

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  30. thewritewomanblog

    February 27, 2017 at 5:32pm

    I have a friend who came to the UAE on a job, her neighbor’s son (who was already in the UAE) was given the ‘responsibility’ to take care of her until she settled down. This responsibility turned into love and now he and she are ‘responsible’ for one another as they are very much man and wife and very much in love too. 😉

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      Akhila

      February 28, 2017 at 9:54pm

      Ha ha nice counter story…so far so good, alle

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