The rule of Expectations

When the expectations are increasing , we are forced to raise our level.

When the level is raised up, expectations are increased again.

Be involved in that chain reaction.

But when should we employ some control rods? Or Should we?

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The author is a Quality Assurance professional by experience. Part Quantitative data analyst, part consultant for quality and information security practices, part software tester, she is a writer by passion and blogs at http://wordsandnotion.com and http://qualitynotion.com/.

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  1. Sreejith Nair

    July 20, 2016 at 9:30am

    You keep raising your level as per your expectations and not based on other people’s, then anytime you can apply the control rods 🙂

    That’s what I learned from my experience 🙂

    Have a beautiful day 🙂

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  2. theonlysup

    July 20, 2016 at 10:44am

    Well golden rule of marriage , its OK to expect anything and everything from each other.. But if these are taken in a negative way its destructive for any kinda relationship.. Be it a marriage or friendship.. Depends on acceptance level of the other person very much.

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      Akhila

      July 20, 2016 at 1:57pm

      thanks sup.. Even though i didnt think about marriage, while I posted this, I am really glad to have your words on this. As you always come up with some different style.

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      Akhila

      July 20, 2016 at 1:59pm

      the acceptance level defines your limit while entering into the life of anyone.

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  3. avinamdar

    July 20, 2016 at 11:03am

    Akhila, that’s the good thing and bad thing about being human. We have unlimited potential, and we can always raise our level when required. But we are also prone to become greedy, and then it becomes this vicious circle of never ending expectations! So, we must always watch out for the signs, greed is the devil in disguise!

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  4. aishahnaaz

    July 20, 2016 at 11:54am

    The thing about your posts is, either they are thought provoking or they radiate a positive energy. A few words, few lines, but a lot of things unsaid coming out of it. 🙂 Good day to you!!

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      Akhila

      July 20, 2016 at 1:41pm

      I am happy as my words could make you thinking..and most importantly what makes me happy is that you are understanding the unsaid part of my words..

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  5. Daisy in the Willows

    July 20, 2016 at 1:15pm

    I don’t know why but this got me thinking about politics and the consumerist society we live in. There needs to be limits on material expectations and more championing of our inherent characteristics and values.

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      Akhila

      July 20, 2016 at 1:37pm

      Thanks Daisy.. I am always looking for your words, just because of the same reason. You are thoughtful enough to come up with different perspectives.

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      Akhila

      July 20, 2016 at 1:40pm

      exactly this is the control rod which i mentioned in the post. but when could one realize whether he/she needs to have pause on that materialistic expectations.?

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      • Daisy in the Willows

        July 20, 2016 at 7:44pm

        That is the BIG question. Many times I have thought of turning my back on society and going to live in the jungle or somewhere -become self sufficient -with no need for money. I read an article about a guy that did that and it was inspiring. I hate feeling I am controlled by media, technology, politics and the rest. The world needs simplicity in my opinion.

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          Akhila

          July 20, 2016 at 10:08pm

          you are too ground to earth.. a big salute.. And you know, targeting a simpler life is in dreams only now..

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          • Daisy in the Willows

            July 21, 2016 at 11:59am

            Dreams are only that, but they can be turned into goals and goals are something achievable 😀

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            Akhila

            July 21, 2016 at 12:01pm

            and it is the passion which links the dreams and the goals

          • Daisy in the Willows

            July 21, 2016 at 12:09pm

            Now that is the true question – how much passion do we have in us to want to change? Grumbling and moaning is not enough .

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            Akhila

            July 21, 2016 at 3:09pm

            yes.. we need to have a work ethic along with passion.

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      • pins & ashes

        July 20, 2016 at 2:35pm

        Didn’t even reach any of that, just lazing around watching the weather.. enjoying the breeze .. and reading comments to posts ..

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  7. Nisthur Anadi

    July 20, 2016 at 2:42pm

    Having expectations means looking for future, that means you are waiting some thing to happen, so that you can start living , or actually you’repostponing Happiness .

    But life always happens here and now. Expectations means you want to achieve some thing, want to reach some destination.

    Expectations means you want to acquire some thing. Expectations means waiting for something to happen out side in this world as per your wish. Approach is materialstic.

    Expectations means focus is on external objects.

    Expectations means bondage with some specific should happen what we think is right.

    Need of control means you have infested with doubt that even if you’re expectations from self or from others fulfilled, it may give you temporary relief, happiness or pleasure, but again you will desire same thing in more quantity or quality or you will have different desire.

    Then you start chasing any external object and same thing will be repeated.

    I am not against expectations or controlling them. My point is human life motto behind every action is to be happy.

    People are chasing happiness through their thoughts , desires , expectations and actions. But trying to gain in success or goal. No doubt they are entertained for some time, But not stable or constant or eternal.

    Either we will in past or we dream about future and miss most of the time in expecting desires to be full filled.

    But life happens here and now in present moment, then what is solution ?

    Should we not have expectations, should we not try to control them ?

    Knowing the true nature of thoughts , mind and actions and self can help.

    How ?

    We can contemplate on the basis of our past experiences and people you have lived their life .

    Desires can never be full filled. Desires means

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  8. Nisthur Anadi

    July 20, 2016 at 3:11pm

    Sorry , I had not finished my view and by mistake I touched send button.

    There is no harm in creating a roadmap for life. But instead of focusing on destination enjoy journey. No matter what future has for you. Just be in present moment and enjoy the simply being into the act. For got the result , let it be good or bad. Just enjoy doing in way that you not doer but simply watching whats happening .

    Believe me our real nature is noting but love , peace and happiness. Enjoy your sheer existence. Don’t look for any success , goal or achievement. You are already complete and perfect.

    People who achieve success or accomplish any thing need to understand that nothing is permanent. What ever you will achieve will not remain with you always. Death will take away from you every materials you will acquire through out your life.

    That does not mean you stop performing, but should need to know no action or result can neither make me better or can make me worst.

    Having said knowledge if you expect any thing , that happens fine, something happens other way around that is also fine.

    Now you reach to that state , where you find no control is required at all.

    All negative will washed away, the way flowing water becomes pure and looses it’s impurities.

    Else keep working on millions of issues of life. You will succeed in few hundred , but thousand issues will come again.

    Hope people will understand, what takes away their entire misery and sorrow and realized their true nature as blissful soul.

    Regards.

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      Akhila

      July 20, 2016 at 3:14pm

      but i think I havent reached that state to perceive everything in a fine position…

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      • Nisthur Anadi

        July 20, 2016 at 3:23pm

        It’s not necessary to reach that destination. Just a simple understanding about the concept can make you be in bliss.

        Just keep the curiosity alive.

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  9. SumitOfficial

    July 20, 2016 at 4:06pm

    Yes Akhila. It’s truly said by you. But aren’t we drowning ourselves by being dependent on something and expecting the same from other person.

    At forget about the other person. Let’s talk about our own self. Oyr inner side. At times, we expect a lot from our own selves.

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      Akhila

      July 20, 2016 at 5:02pm

      understanding the true self is a blessing.. when we are into that path, no more expectations..

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  10. davekingsbury

    July 20, 2016 at 4:38pm

    We should never control our own expectations, only those imposed on us by others.

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    Akhila

    July 20, 2016 at 5:00pm

    ha ha.. I know.. I know.. that’s why I pointed it.. 😉

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  12. Dee

    July 20, 2016 at 8:00pm

    Yep…chain reaction indeed. Somewhere we gotto draw own very own lines I guess!

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      Akhila

      July 20, 2016 at 10:04pm

      yes.. and realizing when to draw that line is the most difficult part..

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  13. mywords331

    July 20, 2016 at 9:19pm

    Your post has very deep meaning..control rods…very thoughtful..we all have them.

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      Akhila

      July 20, 2016 at 10:03pm

      thanks a lot. I am really glad with your words..so what’s your mode of control..?

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      • mywords331

        July 21, 2016 at 6:38am

        I try to control my expectations because that’s d root behind all..less we expect lesser we get hurt….

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      Akhila

      July 20, 2016 at 10:02pm

      ha ha.. there you dont have any mode of escape..you have to exceed the expectation to come in the outstanding category

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      • TylerLearnsToWrite

        July 20, 2016 at 10:04pm

        Sometimes you have to lower your expectations and supprised yourself by being at normal level. Which also higher in your terms. 🙂

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          Akhila

          July 20, 2016 at 10:06pm

          yeah.. atleast we could satisfy ourself, even though not our boss..

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  14. chembaneer

    July 20, 2016 at 11:42pm

    Expect less and u will get more…don’t care about others expectation ..always that will mislead u …

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  15. extinct0703

    July 21, 2016 at 5:17am

    I expect you to come up with such brain storming questions and you excel daily. Do we need control rod?

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      Akhila

      July 21, 2016 at 11:43am

      thanks a lot Dhiraj.. your words are really motivating…
      think.. think. do we need control rods..?

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  16. anand

    July 25, 2016 at 6:59am

    We should check out our limitations before going up and up .. everything should have its limits..

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      Akhila

      July 25, 2016 at 9:24am

      limits..? I don’t think so anand…do you think that your skills to take not so common photographs are limited..

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      • anand

        July 25, 2016 at 6:07pm

        Yes maybe but there are instants in our life when we just have to consider the limitations…

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          Akhila

          July 26, 2016 at 12:30pm

          and those instants will be some exceptional cases.. but in the normal routine, nothing could make us tired, nothing could make us bored, nothing could make us limited

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  17. Shweta Suresh

    March 30, 2017 at 10:12am

    There are times when there’s too much pressure because of expectations. Sometimes expectations set us up for failures. Expectations can leave us disappointed. On the other hand, expectations can motivate us to work hard. But in my opinion, these conflicting situations are like the two sides of a coin. I guess, in the end – what’s important is to not lose hope and keep trying without thinking about the results. Do the best that you can at that particular moment of time. At least we’ll have the satisfaction of knowing that we tried our best.

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      Akhila

      March 30, 2017 at 3:16pm

      You are absolutely right shweta.. Have a question in mind..hope u got it..

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  18. kalyansparks

    March 30, 2017 at 11:52am

    Hello nuclear physics student.If you go on increasing the chained reaction,happiness decreases.because it’s inversely proportional to expectations.soo if you don’t keep control rods.ITS OK actually.But one day we will die.when should we employ control rods?There should be greedy meter to measure how long we can be greedy.After that meter break up.we can employ control rods.Actually life itself provides control rod phase.This phase is known as old age.you don’t have energy,or much activity in your brain.so even though you forget to employ those rods.life won’t.

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  19. mylittlepursuitsofhappyness

    March 30, 2017 at 2:05pm

    Whether we control or not..expectations mostly out run our levels.. if we fail to deliver as per expectations set it brings in disappointment. Balancing is not easy either.

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      Akhila

      March 30, 2017 at 3:21pm

      It’s not easy..but why should we get upset always..instead let us try to make it exciting as robin sharma says

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  21. shreyans

    March 30, 2017 at 3:49pm

    if the expectations are soul driven then you should never stop..growth is the ultimate goal of life..but material expectations should be controlled as early as possible..
    shreyans

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      Akhila

      March 31, 2017 at 7:55am

      We need to have materialistic expectations too..otherwise what’s that point of continuing…

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  22. tingleurtastebuds

    March 31, 2017 at 2:27am

    I would say stop expecting. thats the best thing as when you expect your heart is broken when the expectation is not met.

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      Akhila

      March 31, 2017 at 9:34am

      Hmm.. won’t it be frustrating even while without any hopes and expectations…in a way, it’s the driving engine..isn’t it

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      • tingleurtastebuds

        March 31, 2017 at 1:03pm

        You can wish. But expecting a person to do something for you and when they don’t do it is really frustrating. My motto is not to expect from others. That brings disappointment.

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      • tingleurtastebuds

        March 31, 2017 at 1:04pm

        Driving engine is to dream and wish. When you wish it won’t hurt but when you expect it hurts. Hope I made it clear.

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  23. Meenakshi Sethi

    March 31, 2017 at 2:50am

    Till we are not destroying peace and contentment in life level could be increased but not on cost of peace.

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      Akhila

      March 31, 2017 at 9:31am

      Yup..it must never be on cost of peace and our comfort

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    • exoticnita54

      March 31, 2017 at 8:21am

      We really have to adapt to things as they change..,
      And try to keep up with it..
      so Yesss

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  25. Manu Michael sdb

    March 31, 2017 at 8:20am

    However, I feel one can lose all peace of mind basing oneself on the expectations of the other

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      Akhila

      March 31, 2017 at 9:09am

      Yeah..if there is someone else to bias our expectations, control is lost..

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      • Manu Michael sdb

        March 31, 2017 at 9:11am

        Looking around we can notice clear signs of burdening the people with expectations…. Look at some parents may be it is out of love but….

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          Akhila

          March 31, 2017 at 9:22am

          True that..society, especially the parents program their kids in the way they want..very few only can escape from this fence

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          • Manu Michael sdb

            March 31, 2017 at 9:24am

            Yap, though for good people don’t realize the harm that they are doing to the children

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            Akhila

            March 31, 2017 at 9:26am

            Hmm.. by the time they realize, kids would have fallen in the trap of stereotypical notion

  26. shreyans

    March 31, 2017 at 9:04am

    No…can you tell me what kind of materialistic expectation..just one example..

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      Akhila

      March 31, 2017 at 9:06am

      Your passion..isn’t it materialistic in a way

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      • shreyans

        March 31, 2017 at 9:54am

        Well no..because if it was..i would have never felt satisfied, because materialistic satisfaction has no end, it goes on.

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      Akhila

      March 31, 2017 at 9:07am

      The thing is we should let others decide our level

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  27. Ashwi

    March 31, 2017 at 2:46pm

    very true, if you are expecting higher and higher from yourself then you are growing and raising your level up by yourself and i think that’s the way of making your name as big.. as mount everest

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  28. Moushmi Radhanpara

    March 31, 2017 at 6:34pm

    I don’t know in what sense you might have come up with this but sometimes I think that it’s good raising standards but then what if these expectations aren’t met? Don’t we feel more disheartened then?

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  29. Sweta Ojha

    April 2, 2017 at 4:48pm

    I could not agree much. Expectations run in a loop indeed. 🙂

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  30. Maniparna Sengupta Majumder

    April 4, 2017 at 1:58am

    I think expectation has no limit and it keeps on increasing and eventually, it makes us sad. It’s important to keep a control…

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  31. Tony Burgess

    April 8, 2017 at 2:21pm

    No good deed goes unpunished. The better one does there is an expectation that they should do better all the time.

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      Akhila

      April 8, 2017 at 3:33pm

      Yeah.. Always running behind something better..good in a way

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  32. thewritewomanblog

    April 9, 2017 at 4:22pm

    Expectations increase based on your own influence upon it. You will continue to give but after you have exhausted it, what happens, you get crushed?

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  33. realprogression

    August 11, 2017 at 3:33am

    Read my latest post on expectations! I’d love some feedback, this is my first blog post

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      Akhila

      August 11, 2017 at 9:53am

      Thanks for being here.. will read your post

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