Can a man win the war against lust?

By | June 7, 2017

Will you gentleman be aroused on seeing a pretty lady in half dress?

When your masculine hormones responds positively,

  • What if she is cooperative to your wishes?
  • Then,  will you feed your lust-hunger or Move away, holding your morality or loyalty or promises to someone else ?

Why is it so tough to resist the temptation or win the war against lust (in an unintended relationship) ?

82 thoughts on “Can a man win the war against lust?

  1. Shaggy

    Why call it lust, it’s a natural stimulation to beauty…………
    It’s no war!!!

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    1. Akhila Post author

      Okay then…you call it as natural stimulation to beauty…it’s not bad as long as you are not intruding into someone’s comfort zone .. what if you are breaking some promises to someone else..do you account that under your natural stimulation..

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      1. Shaggy

        What if I ain’t breaking any, but the woman is………..

        If done with consent I don’t think it’s a trouble…….

        Besides, I believe promises are unisex, hence both men and women have to keep it……..

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        1. Akhila Post author

          No offense , promises are to be kept ..
          with or without consent, never promises should be broken…

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  2. Shaggy

    Also, why generalise……..
    As you said, if woman is cooperative of your wishes, doesn’t that indicate she too has needs, she wants to fulfill.
    Men are different, some are full of lust some arent. Some chose to be loyal, sone don’t. Generalising men, as the lusty being is completely unwarranted and stupid.

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    1. Akhila Post author

      It’s not at all a generalization…”can a man win the war against lust” that’s it..

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        1. Akhila Post author

          I respect your views. But what I meant is all men are not driven by lust…

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          1. Shaggy

            It’s rather interesting that I meant the same………..
            Yet we got trapped, somewhere in the mess of words and expression………

  3. mylittlepursuitsofhappyness

    This sounded two sided to me Akhila.. one part we talk about men holding their morals high and the other about women being cooperative to men’s wishes.. the cooperation comes with her consent. If she objects then definitely men need to back off..

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    1. Akhila Post author

      Yup, obviously no one has the right to enter into others comfort zone without their will.. here I was trying to understand whether a man will compromise his loyalty at the cost of lust..

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  4. mylittlepursuitsofhappyness

    Moreover any gender be it male or female looking at the opposite sex with intentions of doing anything immoral leads to adultery even though it may not involve the sense of touch.

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    1. Akhila Post author

      Yeah..that’s why there is a 10 seconds limit even for ogling…(10 sec or 8 sec not quite sure though..)

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  5. Bikramjit

    I think it takes two hands to clap.. yeah men have more of those hormones but i am positive that the same exist in women too.

    The only difference is men don’t control which leads to wrong doings..and women can control.

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    1. Shaggy

      Okay, again why would you say, women can control it. The woman in your neighbourhood controlled, the woman in neighbourhood didn’t. It’s a personal choice, it’s nothing ki all “woman” can and no “man” can.

      No offence meant mate!!! Hope you don’t mind……..

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    2. Akhila Post author

      Thanks for being so frank bikram..really appreciate that.. it’s a total human feeling and no harm in that as long as it’s not hurting someone else..someone need not be that charming woman who ignite the lust as she maybe even cooperative too, but it could be the one who trust the person

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    1. Akhila Post author

      Well ami, now I would ask, which women’s consent.. the pretty lady who made him lose his control or the lady who was waiting for him in his home ( if he has one )

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  6. Puneet

    Lust is real for both the genders but I guess it all lies with our will power.

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    1. Akhila Post author

      Totally..lust is the very human nature..no disagreements…but above to that will power, it becomes quite natural to have no lust at all with the unintended person… it’s above to feeling of morality or loyalty.. it won’t become a commitment.. it happens naturally when there is love in your life… maybe it’s my personal view…

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  7. Inked philosophy

    I am confused here. What is your point? I am sorry but I didn’t understand it. We have also written on this topic. Read lust by us. Hope You’ll like it.

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    1. Akhila Post author

      Oops..I thought even the title itself is self explanatory.. Will check your blog soon

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      1. Inked philosophy

        Yes the title is but in later part you bring a cooperative lady there and them it becomes intricate. It puzzled me. But my opinion on this is that lust is as natural as anything but thdre is a limit for everything and one must know his.

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        1. Akhila Post author

          Yup.. I added that cooperative lady to ignite his lust..and to know what he will do under that condition, whether he will feed his hunger for lust or move away keeping his promises..

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  8. Prajakta

    I don’t think it’s a matter about controlling lust. Rapes happen because some men believe they have the authority to fulfill their desires even without the mutual consent of the ladies.

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    1. Akhila Post author

      Yes Praja.. controlling or not, some people believe it to be their right to win over the other…

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  9. Prajakta

    Lust is a behavioral part of every human being be it a man or a woman. It’s not difficult to control it.. if only you possess the will to do it

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    1. Akhila Post author

      The ‘will’ happens only when you have some morales in life…if you are an easy go type, the why question comes into play.. and no one can answer that question other than with ones own life experiences

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  10. Samantha

    I suppose this goes for both men and women. It’s easy to blame men for being adulterous, but if women throw themselves at them maybe they are just as wrong. As is it the other way around.

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    1. Akhila Post author

      What’s the point in thinking whether women throw themselves at the men, or the men throw themselves at the women… whoever throws themselves, it’s up to the person to decide whether to control the lust or not. Isn’t it..

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      1. Samantha

        If there is no temptation you don’t have to resist it. I still think both parties involved are wrong, because they should both know better.

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  11. Dheeraj Dave

    मैडम जी इस दुनिया में चोरी करते पकडे जाना अपराध है चोरी करना नहीं।”lust” आदमी और महिलाओं दोनों में होती है।कुछ पुरुषो के guilt होने के कारण सभी आदमियों पे इलज़ाम लगाना गलत होगा।
    And yes the mixture of lust and love is a pure form of orgasm…bt if there is only lust thn its a kind of “mental disability”…thing which are happening in the world is mental disabity not lust….lust flows in botb ways either men or women…

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    1. Akhila Post author

      It’s not a blame upon the entire men gender..don’t think in that way… as you said lust flows in both gender.. but ultimately who is crucified everywhere mostly..

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  12. Shreya Sharma

    Well, I don’t know much about the topic, but what I have seen and read in the books, the only thing that actually stop a man against this war is fear of post regret, the burden he may be subjected to after the situation (if he is already holding promises to other woman), at times not too, maintaining loyalty is a difficult task I see.

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    1. Akhila Post author

      Maintaining loyalty would be a difficult task, if your willpower is a forced one..isn’t it

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  13. Unfiltered consciousness

    It’s in my opinion not hard at all. Tempting but not hard. Ones mind reacts to what one has taught it through behavior and environmental perception. In each case one should not that each persons reaction is different. The question can be asked if the degrading of women wasn’t so prevalent in today’s society would we be so tempted to act on these forced lusting situations.

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    1. Akhila Post author

      Good to know that it’s not hard… whether lusting situations are forced or not, it’s still in the person’s hands..I believe so…

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  14. Ξnigma

    Can a man win a war against lust?
    Yes.

    Will you gentleman be aroused on seeing a pretty lady in half dress?
    Yes.

    When your masculine hormones responds positively, what if she is cooperative to your wishes?
    Yes

    Then, will you feed your hunger or move away holding your morality or loyalty or whatever.
    Yes.
    Why move away from morality, loyalty or whatever? Sex isn’t a sin! It isn’t a morally degrading experience. It does speak about loyalty, but don’t loyal people (to each other) have sex ? Whatever, yes please be specific!

    Why is it so tough to resist the temptation or win the war against lust?
    What? There is never a war against lust. Fir some, it is tough to resist sometimes, but that doesn’t mean that people go on a lust rampage with the first person they find.

    But then again, it goes both ways!

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    1. Akhila Post author

      First of all thanks for answering to all my questions…really appreciate that
      Lust is not at all a sin as long as it’s not harmful…harmful in the sense doing without the consent or breaking some promises .. both are acts of cheating…
      well, it’s my view..

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  15. Lathiya

    This is one question I always ask to such mens ( though not openly)..what you receive after such act? or you satisfied or proud of your activity? Dont know when this will stop

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  16. Shaggy

    Would have to disagree on the point that women control the urge better than men. It’s a personal choice, gender has nothing to do with, if you can control the urge.

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  17. Shaggy

    As for the second part, I have no clue, what to say…….

    You don’t want to be questioned for opinions given in an open forum……

    My grandad never wanted to be questioned but he was wise enough not to say anything in open forums…….

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    1. Bikramjit

      And what makes you think I don’t want to be questioned. The second part asks a question.

      Maybe something wrong with my English vocabulary alas Mr. Sidhu the teacher

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  18. Moushmi Radhanpara

    I am not sure, if they can. But then again if the woman responds positively then I do not think it is even possible. Having said that I have seen faithful men who would try and do their level best to avoid the adultery.
    So I guess it all depends on the individual.

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    1. Akhila Post author

      Yes.. there are men who can easily keep away themselves from such acts… I was just trying to understand how will they respond under a forced lust

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  19. mythoughtsfromthewindow

    In my humble opinion there are so many different variables! One of the biggest is the poor mans ego. If he feels wanted and cared for and has his needs met at home, the risk of temptation is lessened. In practical terms, it is easy to turn down a few chicken nuggets if you just ate a steak at home!

    Another is the mans sense of honor. I would not want my kids to see me as a less of a man. I have a daughter and would destroy a man who took her as his wife but hurt her. I need to set an example for my son.

    Admittedly sometimes it is hard, but it is not worth the pain and anger it creates.

    Unfortunately there are also some women out there who think of it as a game and look at men as if they are playing hard to get so their ego joins the battle as well!

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    1. Akhila Post author

      Thanks a lot for your detailed view.. really hats off to you showing an example to your kids in the right way

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    1. Akhila Post author

      Lust and love are interlinked when you are in a committed relationship…..

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  20. Ranjini

    I don’t know if I can put my thoughts into words clearly. There is an underlying belief that Men can talk freely of their lust while women can’t. Men have an advantage over almost everything due to so many reasons. Women have been the subdued and the weaker sex in the past and the culture of men raping women or expressing their lust in other manners have become so prevalent that some men think it is alright. That men have lesser control over their senses than women (A friend who thought so, told me this). I think it is the whole attitude that has brought this about. If women were stronger and we had an advantage & control over the men, the same story would have been reversed.

    So I think, the ability to control or not to control isn’t gender specific but depends upon a particular human being and his mind. Our society has dissected and bifurcated everything on the basis of gender that people are unable to see otherwise.

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    1. Akhila Post author

      Ranjini… this is totally a different perspective… something to ponder…”if the women were physically and mentally strong enough the story would have been reversed”.. is that possible…

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  21. Jeni G.J

    Here you’re putting a men into a different situation and not many have understood it properly .the question was just simple and straight forward…if a woman looks at you with lust, how will you react?
    after all, I believe in ‘one man, one woman’ policy.

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  22. Understand546

    Lust has always been more common than love and loyalty. More people are addicted to the thing that are bad for us because it doesn’t require much effort to sin. So another words lust is addictive. Love and loyalty is the greatest felling in the world but comes with great responsibility. Lust doesn’t come with responbility. It’s so much easier to lust than to love

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