The unquenchable thirst

He met her. Knew that it was someone else’s wife. Initially it was just a fascination,  then love and later it turned out to be a thought to own her, a harmful obsession.

Is this not the same feeling ruling rapists..? Are they also having the similar obsession, may be on a different rate..?

(To make it clear, in this post, my intention is neither to question the faithfulness of spouses nor to violate the universal attraction law)

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One thought on “The unquenchable thirst

  1. Josh

    September 15, 2016 at 9:15am

    And to an extend, its all the mind games of a depressed mind, caused by the oppressed social norms.

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      Akhila

      September 15, 2016 at 11:26am

      Is it society to be blamed for this…

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      • Josh

        September 15, 2016 at 1:47pm

        If that society is included of people like you and me.

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      Akhila

      September 15, 2016 at 11:23am

      Ya…may be…they are ignoring the fact that no one can own anybody

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  2. Varsh

    September 15, 2016 at 10:23am

    Good morning Akhila!
    How can it be same for rapists? I doubt if love features there. People can own cattle…not human beings.

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          • Varsh

            September 16, 2016 at 3:06pm

            Being attracted and having feelings of love (which is impossible by merely looking at anyone anyway) is alright, but one needs to set boundaries when the lady is married or even committed. Owning her is simply out of question in any case.

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      Akhila

      September 15, 2016 at 11:40am

      Hmm..if so, may need to add or remove some elements from the body to make system in equilibrium.

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  3. Bikramjit

    September 15, 2016 at 11:48am

    It’s the mentality..

    Although as varsh says above it surely is not love.. and if it was love then I think both made a mistake there..

    I had a long discussion with someone ..why would someone want to rape another human being.. It is such a sad world we live.

    And law for sure is not helping ..

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      Akhila

      September 16, 2016 at 1:48pm

      Yes, forbidden love…people think that they can posses it…

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      • myheartbeats4ublog

        September 17, 2016 at 9:57am

        so true…but it is only an illusion true love can not be ‘possessed’…. but then, pursuers of ‘forbidden love’ do not care! and more often than not, ‘love’ is just a mask for the other emotions…

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          Akhila

          September 17, 2016 at 10:23am

          Hmm…that’s why govindachamis are still alive

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          • myheartbeats4ublog

            September 17, 2016 at 10:24am

            ey..that is not love or lust. that is pure animal (animals may take offence ) behaviour

  4. Mick Canning

    September 15, 2016 at 1:32pm

    All emotions, unfortunately, become harmful when they get out of control.

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      Akhila

      September 16, 2016 at 1:41pm

      Agree with you fully..and it matters when and where we draw a control line

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  5. prashantt

    September 15, 2016 at 2:54pm

    Its ill mentality & nobody can own anyone and certainly its not love its damn bad sin..love is to see your loved ones,it never seeks thought of owning anything….
    aah! you always came with strange topics of society!

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      Akhila

      September 15, 2016 at 9:48pm

      Thanks prashant, for reading my mind…certainly it is not love and that’s why i call it also ‘mental rape’

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  6. 187puneet

    September 15, 2016 at 6:46pm

    Loving someone is different and owning is way different. A thought provoking post.

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      Akhila

      September 15, 2016 at 9:45pm

      Thanks puneet…in fact i was thinking, how can someone own some other, without their will

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  7. Shivangi

    September 15, 2016 at 7:42pm

    Another nice question you raised Akhila. Rape and love are two different things, one leads to hell and the other makes you feel in heaven. But if one happens to be wanting an adulterous relationship, it will be sinful because there would be so many innocent people (spouse, kids etc) who would be hurt. Love is always noble and one should not commit adultery in love. It defiles this noble emotion, which thrives on giving!

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      Akhila

      September 15, 2016 at 9:41pm

      True shiva… There is no love when the emotions drive one into a physical world alone

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  8. bhaatdal

    September 15, 2016 at 9:23pm

    I don’t know where to rate the emotions .. Love can happen anywhere anytime but it is also unfaithfulness and greed as love is not always having it is giving as well. Nice thought much appreciated

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      Akhila

      September 15, 2016 at 9:35pm

      Thanks bhaat. When it becomes unfaithful, the life becomes meaningless…

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      • bhaatdal

        September 15, 2016 at 9:42pm

        I know but many a times I avoid to be judgemental who knows if there is any compromises instead of love two souls spend whole life without knowing what is love .

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          Akhila

          September 15, 2016 at 10:28pm

          Compromises, adjustments..we hear all these wordss daily..aren’t they..but i feel if there is genuine understanding,then life is beautiful

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          • bhaatdal

            September 15, 2016 at 10:46pm

            I agree fully ..and Thank God for a blessed Life . Its just that I did not wanted to be judgemental for others .:) Thank you for sharing the thoughtful thought . 🙂

      • bhaatdal

        September 15, 2016 at 9:43pm

        and I am jyotsna AKhila 🙂 or Nivedita .. jo man ho wohi bol lo

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    Akhila

    September 15, 2016 at 9:47pm

    Romance is divine..but what if it is not at the right path

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      Akhila

      September 16, 2016 at 11:29am

      True, that’s why i felt the other case also to be somewhat similar to that of rapists

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      Akhila

      September 16, 2016 at 12:32pm

      Absolutely right..when possessiveness drives us, things turn to be harmful

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  10. DARKLOVE9095

    September 16, 2016 at 8:11am

    There are multiple viewpoints for this topic.
    1. See not everyone is happy from an arranged marriage and all such people have the right to speak about it to their families and get over it rather than spending whole life repenting for the choice one made in the first place. In India. “log kya kahenge” is a priority to one’s own happiness. And that’s ridiculous. So my point is if a woman (as mentioned in your post) is not happy she must make a decision and move on. And it happens so many times that after getting into a relationship or marriage, people find their true love later and they just can’t help themselves then.
    2. What rapists think is totally opposite. They carve for physical needs. It is due to the easy access made to adult pornography and misguided minds. Education is a good solution for this. There are tons of people living on streets and slums. We should educate them. And it’s not like high class people don’t rape. They do. For them, knocking them down is a option. I am of a opinion that rapists should be hanged to death. No trials, no grievance, nothing.

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      Akhila

      September 16, 2016 at 12:21pm

      I agree to the second point. But on the first case, what i feel is, it is dangerous when someone try to own some other without their consent, physically or even mentally..that’s why i felt it also to be somewhat similar to the thought behind rapes..

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  11. DARKLOVE9095

    September 16, 2016 at 2:56pm

    Hmm. Let’s drop it like a hot potato. There are plenty other good things to be talked about.

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  12. bhaatdal

    September 16, 2016 at 3:21pm

    you too and keep reading and ping me so that could read you time to time .. 🙂 Happy Blogging 🙂

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  13. bhaatdal

    September 16, 2016 at 3:31pm

    hahaha.. So it was done purposely 🙂 nice try .. but actually I did it purposely too as I know you know my name through Mahi’s blog .. I followed you through her blog only.. Nice to know you :):) much love to you 🙂

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      Akhila

      September 16, 2016 at 4:17pm

      Yaa..i remember the way we met..but there only i found this bhaat only, i think

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  14. unsaid words

    September 16, 2016 at 4:54pm

    Being attracted towards is a thing and being obsessed with them or with the feeling to own them is certainly not love .Its all about how you channelise your attractions .

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      Akhila

      September 16, 2016 at 10:04pm

      Absolutely right anami. Need to have certain control…

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  15. Ambu R Nair

    September 17, 2016 at 1:01am

    Dear Akhila, no rapist know the feeling of love. Nobody can harm others whom the love. Like the addiction to alcohol, a sort of excessive addition to sexual feelings is a type of madness that leads to rape. It’s a sort of timely madness. Affectionate care and control is needed to help people to free from this disastrous disease.

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      Akhila

      September 17, 2016 at 4:26pm

      Thanks ambu….as u said it is out of question even to find out love in rape…now assume, you found someone attractive, initially it was just an infatuation, then love, then a desire to possess her even if she is married..an unquenchable thirst..i was comparing this feeling eith that of rapists…maybe a mental rape

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      • Ambu R Nair

        September 17, 2016 at 10:29pm

        Akhila, love is constructive where as infatuation is its anti thesis. Freud’s theories- Oedipus and Electra complexes- will help you to understand my comments.

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          Akhila

          September 18, 2016 at 9:02pm

          thnanks Ambu.. will try to read your recommendations..

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  16. myheartbeats4ublog

    September 17, 2016 at 10:27am

    i know… seriously, we MUST do something to put an end to it. and at times, i feel ashamed to be a part of this society. but most of us only talk…enthengilum cheyyanam

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    Akhila

    September 17, 2016 at 4:13pm

    You are right.. They wear a mask of love and always controlled by the evil pull and push of possessiveness…

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    Akhila

    September 17, 2016 at 4:20pm

    Thanks shefali…definitely there is no love in rape, it is out of question..i was trying to say that when you are trying to own someone else without their will, even it is a mental rape….

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  19. Shalini Sharrma

    September 17, 2016 at 11:10pm

    Hehehe.. 😀 I was about to write something and then my mind wanders and thus this ..

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  20. Mr.Obeezy

    September 19, 2016 at 7:31pm

    They are cursed beings, they make me regret sharing same gender…. They are yet to think above apes.

    See the stats of rape in India via my blog…men rape, and not short skirts.

    Such evil obsession.

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  21. Nisthur Anadi

    September 21, 2016 at 7:50pm

    I don’t know what should I say , what to suggest .

    I would say force should not be applied in any human transactions else bliss becomes curse .

    Beautiful things turns ugly. Honey becomes poison . Freedom becomes prison. Light become darkness . Pleasure becomes pain.

    I always see things in holistic views !

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  22. crystalamayy

    June 28, 2017 at 2:16pm

    Do u remember malayalam movie mazhavillu,same scenario thr.its actually complicated we can’t say what is rite and wrong in this situation.to have love for someone is normal but the situations compllicated.

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    • crystalamayy

      June 28, 2017 at 2:17pm

      And I was about to say no one is anyone’s .we can’t just for the person and keep them ,they can make thr on choices.

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        Akhila

        July 3, 2017 at 11:47am

        Agree.. at least you can adore them being at distance, giving their comfort space

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  23. thewritewomanblog

    July 11, 2017 at 11:37am

    I don’t think rapists have any sense of love in their intentions. When there is love automatically there is respect.

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      Akhila

      July 13, 2017 at 10:07am

      Niths, think in the reverse order..the cruelty of rapists are invoked in those so called lovers when his love becomes an obsession..

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  24. Ajay Vyas

    July 16, 2017 at 2:00pm

    Can I just say that your writing has come so very far since I have “known” you.
    You are a great talent, please keep writing ❤️

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