The unquenchable thirst

By | June 28, 2017

He met her. Knew that it was someone else’s wife. Initially it was just a fascination,  then love and later it turned out to be a thought to own her, a harmful obsession.

Is this not the same feeling ruling rapists..? Are they also having the similar obsession, may be on a different rate..?

(To make it clear, in this post, my intention is neither to question the faithfulness of spouses nor to violate the universal attraction law)

86 thoughts on “The unquenchable thirst

  1. Josh

    And to an extend, its all the mind games of a depressed mind, caused by the oppressed social norms.

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  2. Varsh

    Good morning Akhila!
    How can it be same for rapists? I doubt if love features there. People can own cattle…not human beings.

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          1. Varsh

            Being attracted and having feelings of love (which is impossible by merely looking at anyone anyway) is alright, but one needs to set boundaries when the lady is married or even committed. Owning her is simply out of question in any case.

    1. Akhila Post author

      Hmm..if so, may need to add or remove some elements from the body to make system in equilibrium.

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  3. Bikramjit

    It’s the mentality..

    Although as varsh says above it surely is not love.. and if it was love then I think both made a mistake there..

    I had a long discussion with someone ..why would someone want to rape another human being.. It is such a sad world we live.

    And law for sure is not helping ..

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      1. myheartbeats4ublog

        so true…but it is only an illusion true love can not be ‘possessed’…. but then, pursuers of ‘forbidden love’ do not care! and more often than not, ‘love’ is just a mask for the other emotions…

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    1. Akhila Post author

      Hmm…not only awareness, but actions and reactions also should come at the right time

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  4. prashantt

    Its ill mentality & nobody can own anyone and certainly its not love its damn bad sin..love is to see your loved ones,it never seeks thought of owning anything….
    aah! you always came with strange topics of society!

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    1. Akhila Post author

      Thanks prashant, for reading my mind…certainly it is not love and that’s why i call it also ‘mental rape’

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    1. Akhila Post author

      Thanks puneet…in fact i was thinking, how can someone own some other, without their will

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  5. Shivangi

    Another nice question you raised Akhila. Rape and love are two different things, one leads to hell and the other makes you feel in heaven. But if one happens to be wanting an adulterous relationship, it will be sinful because there would be so many innocent people (spouse, kids etc) who would be hurt. Love is always noble and one should not commit adultery in love. It defiles this noble emotion, which thrives on giving!

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    1. Akhila Post author

      True shiva… There is no love when the emotions drive one into a physical world alone

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  6. bhaatdal

    I don’t know where to rate the emotions .. Love can happen anywhere anytime but it is also unfaithfulness and greed as love is not always having it is giving as well. Nice thought much appreciated

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      1. bhaatdal

        I know but many a times I avoid to be judgemental who knows if there is any compromises instead of love two souls spend whole life without knowing what is love .

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        1. Akhila Post author

          Compromises, adjustments..we hear all these wordss daily..aren’t they..but i feel if there is genuine understanding,then life is beautiful

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          1. bhaatdal

            I agree fully ..and Thank God for a blessed Life . Its just that I did not wanted to be judgemental for others .:) Thank you for sharing the thoughtful thought . 🙂

    1. Akhila Post author

      True, that’s why i felt the other case also to be somewhat similar to that of rapists

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  7. DARKLOVE9095

    There are multiple viewpoints for this topic.
    1. See not everyone is happy from an arranged marriage and all such people have the right to speak about it to their families and get over it rather than spending whole life repenting for the choice one made in the first place. In India. “log kya kahenge” is a priority to one’s own happiness. And that’s ridiculous. So my point is if a woman (as mentioned in your post) is not happy she must make a decision and move on. And it happens so many times that after getting into a relationship or marriage, people find their true love later and they just can’t help themselves then.
    2. What rapists think is totally opposite. They carve for physical needs. It is due to the easy access made to adult pornography and misguided minds. Education is a good solution for this. There are tons of people living on streets and slums. We should educate them. And it’s not like high class people don’t rape. They do. For them, knocking them down is a option. I am of a opinion that rapists should be hanged to death. No trials, no grievance, nothing.

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    1. Akhila Post author

      I agree to the second point. But on the first case, what i feel is, it is dangerous when someone try to own some other without their consent, physically or even mentally..that’s why i felt it also to be somewhat similar to the thought behind rapes..

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  8. bhaatdal

    hahaha.. So it was done purposely 🙂 nice try .. but actually I did it purposely too as I know you know my name through Mahi’s blog .. I followed you through her blog only.. Nice to know you :):) much love to you 🙂

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  9. unsaid words

    Being attracted towards is a thing and being obsessed with them or with the feeling to own them is certainly not love .Its all about how you channelise your attractions .

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  10. Ambu R Nair

    Dear Akhila, no rapist know the feeling of love. Nobody can harm others whom the love. Like the addiction to alcohol, a sort of excessive addition to sexual feelings is a type of madness that leads to rape. It’s a sort of timely madness. Affectionate care and control is needed to help people to free from this disastrous disease.

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    1. Akhila Post author

      Thanks ambu….as u said it is out of question even to find out love in rape…now assume, you found someone attractive, initially it was just an infatuation, then love, then a desire to possess her even if she is married..an unquenchable thirst..i was comparing this feeling eith that of rapists…maybe a mental rape

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      1. Ambu R Nair

        Akhila, love is constructive where as infatuation is its anti thesis. Freud’s theories- Oedipus and Electra complexes- will help you to understand my comments.

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  11. myheartbeats4ublog

    i know… seriously, we MUST do something to put an end to it. and at times, i feel ashamed to be a part of this society. but most of us only talk…enthengilum cheyyanam

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  12. Akhila Post author

    You are right.. They wear a mask of love and always controlled by the evil pull and push of possessiveness…

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  13. Akhila Post author

    Thanks shefali…definitely there is no love in rape, it is out of question..i was trying to say that when you are trying to own someone else without their will, even it is a mental rape….

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  14. Mr.Obeezy

    They are cursed beings, they make me regret sharing same gender…. They are yet to think above apes.

    See the stats of rape in India via my blog…men rape, and not short skirts.

    Such evil obsession.

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  15. Nisthur Anadi

    I don’t know what should I say , what to suggest .

    I would say force should not be applied in any human transactions else bliss becomes curse .

    Beautiful things turns ugly. Honey becomes poison . Freedom becomes prison. Light become darkness . Pleasure becomes pain.

    I always see things in holistic views !

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  16. crystalamayy

    Do u remember malayalam movie mazhavillu,same scenario thr.its actually complicated we can’t say what is rite and wrong in this situation.to have love for someone is normal but the situations compllicated.

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    1. crystalamayy

      And I was about to say no one is anyone’s .we can’t just for the person and keep them ,they can make thr on choices.

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      1. Akhila Post author

        Agree.. at least you can adore them being at distance, giving their comfort space

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    1. Akhila Post author

      Niths, think in the reverse order..the cruelty of rapists are invoked in those so called lovers when his love becomes an obsession..

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  17. Ajay Vyas

    Can I just say that your writing has come so very far since I have “known” you.
    You are a great talent, please keep writing ❤️

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