I can never dislike you

Many a times, I wondered why I couldn’t throw people out of my life when their crooked eyes are discomforting me.

Then I thought, there won’t be much harm they caused me or causing me to dislike them. May be it’s my fault to place them in those crooked seats.

Again I was not quite sure, “Is there any such people in my life?”

May be that’s why I donno the distress behind ‘hatred’.

But I am not a saint anymore to get rid of such feelings. I wish if I could hate those crooked eyes..

But on a long run, I realised “I can never dislike the crooked eyes. Definitely I will filter their words and notions out of my life if it’s hurting my ego, but never the soul behind it. “

About

The author is a Quality Analyst by experience. Part Quantitative data analyst, part consultant for quality and information security practices, part software tester, she is a writer by passion and blogs at https://wordsandnotion.com and https://qualitynotion.com/.

One thought on “I can never dislike you

  1. Shalini Sharrma

    October 8, 2016 at 9:50am

    Trust me Akhila, soul is always pure to blame at. Its actions and words that hurt our so called ego as you mentioned, you’re on right track if you are able to throw their crooked words and such things that takes aways your peace of mind 🙂

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      Akhila

      October 8, 2016 at 11:22am

      i read from your words that you understood my posts fully…ya.. it’s a state of mind.. wont happen with everyone, every time..thank you

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  2. shreyans

    October 8, 2016 at 10:49am

    What a wonderful perspective…nicely done..
    Shreyans

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  3. Varsh

    October 8, 2016 at 12:53pm

    Crooked eyes can be imaginary too…or may be misunderstood…
    In any case…its better to not let them affect your take on their soul. Agree with you.

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      Akhila

      October 8, 2016 at 4:06pm

      yes, varsh.. in fact, initially i was also expecting them a case of misunderstanding….may be or may not be, i just cannt be away from them..

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  4. Josh

    October 8, 2016 at 1:04pm

    Hating someone will be like drinking poison ourselves and expecting that person to die 🙂

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      Akhila

      October 8, 2016 at 4:04pm

      may be we are blessed with short term memory with respect to bad

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  5. We come from dreams ~

    October 8, 2016 at 1:11pm

    At 68, I am too old to waste time on those who are deceitful or poisonous. No-one has any obligation to keep people like that in their lives.

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      Akhila

      October 8, 2016 at 4:02pm

      hmm.. may be you are right.. lessons from experienced hands

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  6. Bikramjit

    October 8, 2016 at 1:57pm

    Well just goes to show that you are a good human being.. so be like that always. ..

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      Akhila

      October 8, 2016 at 4:01pm

      oh.. it a symbol of being good..i dont think as i am not that good..;)

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      • Bikramjit

        October 9, 2016 at 12:55pm

        Let other descide on that.. and how do you know you are not good..

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  7. mywords331

    October 8, 2016 at 4:45pm

    Really Akhila your posts sometimes are like a mirror which shows the life and its reality..The eyes you are talking about will come in front of us at many places and as you said not being a saint it is very difficult to drag ourselves from being hurt but if we are able to ignore such unwanted eyes we are on a really track.
    I have faced this situation at my workplace.
    Believe me it was difficult but I learnt to keep control .

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      Akhila

      October 8, 2016 at 10:07pm

      really happy with your words, especially as you too met those crooked eyes..;)

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  8. vibesofacalcuttan

    October 8, 2016 at 5:45pm

    It’s best to surgically remove those people from life who bring nothing but harm and distress to you, no matter how many times you try to be civil and nice. No need to hate them, or think excessively about it; just bring on pure apathy. There’s no need to care. There are still several people who bring sunshine into our lives and we are better off without the deceitful ones. 🙂 Your post is very nice and practical, many people have to face this decision almost every day!

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      Akhila

      October 8, 2016 at 10:03pm

      thanks a lot for helping me to have a different insight…
      but you know, it is a state of mind, definitely not a confused state..

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  9. skd

    October 8, 2016 at 5:51pm

    Goodo akhila Greato! Yeah, keep going as you are! Crooked Eyes will become the most beautiful… Because end of the day, you see them:)) Keep smiling!

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      Akhila

      October 8, 2016 at 10:01pm

      thanks a lot my friend.. navarathri aasamsakal

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  10. davekingsbury

    October 8, 2016 at 6:06pm

    Without evil there would be no good. Your post reaches a good conclusion.

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      Akhila

      October 8, 2016 at 9:59pm

      but i doubt isnt that evil merely a state of mind or perspective difference..

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      • davekingsbury

        October 9, 2016 at 12:11am

        I think evil is only to be found in bad human actions, or inactions where actions are needed.

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    Akhila

    October 8, 2016 at 10:09pm

    ya…many in an office atmosphere…which office are you working..

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        Akhila

        October 8, 2016 at 11:06pm

        oh..okay…have a sound sleep.. good night

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  12. Sweta Ojha

    October 9, 2016 at 12:14pm

    Totally love the perspective. I’m happy to have crossed paths with you. 🙂 Stay blessed.

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  13. lizalizaskysaregrey

    October 10, 2016 at 12:17pm

    Thank you for sharing this, it is very thought provoking and I will spend time thinking on it. You are right, love conquers all and we should send love out into the world, particularly to those who spread hate, or those crooked people as you put it. I’m not so sure I would like to surround myself with these people but that might be a measure of my own soul? 🙂

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      Akhila

      October 10, 2016 at 12:44pm

      yes liza.. it is difficult to allow those crooked eyes around you if you cannt be attached to them..in my case, what i feel is, i have a short term memory too with respect to bad..;)

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  14. Zee

    October 10, 2016 at 1:41pm

    Wow…these are such deep thoughts. Especially the last line: Definitely I will words their words and notions out of my life if it’s hurting my ego. But never the soul behind it.
    Damn. This hits home run !

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      Akhila

      October 10, 2016 at 3:37pm

      thanks zee..hope you are not confused..;)

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  15. Parvathy Sarat

    June 29, 2017 at 8:42am

    Loved this one! Often I hear of people blocking out certain others entirely ‘because of negative vibes’. But nobody is entirely negative, the world isn’t black and white.

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      Akhila

      July 3, 2017 at 11:38am

      Yup paravathy.. we must the must accept the grey areas too

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  16. vishal4u

    June 29, 2017 at 12:02pm

    Hating someone or disliking anyone is ok and the best way is to avoid them if you can but if you can’t then we must learn to see through such people and their crooked eyes also.

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      Akhila

      July 3, 2017 at 10:49am

      Agree with you fully.. we need to develop that skill to read from their crooked eyes

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  17. Mr.Lonely

    June 29, 2017 at 4:20pm

    Well, I could definitely throw people out of my life neither I can’t filter their wounds.. I am so weak … but yes, I have found a way to live on my own walking through the stoning by my dear ones…

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      Akhila

      July 3, 2017 at 10:49am

      Happy for you that you have found your own way..that’s all one needed

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  18. shilpamohan5

    June 29, 2017 at 9:10pm

    Well said..And true that..We can never dislike some people,we can only filter them..Idk why

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    Akhila

    July 3, 2017 at 10:52am

    Thanks a lot shiva sir. Your words emphasizes two main things, see ourselves from their angle and bothering about them will bother us..I am understanding it fully

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  20. thewritewomanblog

    July 11, 2017 at 11:36am

    Yes, so true. When we do not get the reaction and response of the person in question the way we expect it, then they take a back seat in our life. Some are really and intentionally crooked, just to shake you up a bit or show their power or flaunt their ego, but it is how you decide to react to it that matters. If you were ‘great’ enough to ignore it all and go on as if nothing has happened, then you have attained ‘sainthood’ otherwise you are just human.

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      Akhila

      July 13, 2017 at 10:05am

      Maybe time has got a role there to heal everything..or maybe saints have that control of time to ignore the bad .

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