Is objective evaluation possible if you are very attached to the subject?

Someone 1: She is my girl….see her blue eyes, speaking our love.

Someone 2: What’s there in that caty eyes..I don’t see anything..seems you are lost in her love..

Hmm.. there are certain facts which we need to accept as such. Say for example, pure water is colorless always…do you see it differently?

Said that, many a times we are driven by emotions or passions and we miss to evaluate things objectively..

Actually can we really do an objective evaluation when we are too much attached to the subject?..and moreover we all are biased in some way or other…And see different things in the same image as posted here

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The author is a Quality Assurance professional by experience. Part Quantitative data analyst, part consultant for quality and information security practices, part software tester, she is a writer by passion and blogs at http://wordsandnotion.com and http://qualitynotion.com/.

One thought on “Is objective evaluation possible if you are very attached to the subject?

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    Akhila

    May 11, 2017 at 10:52am

    Hmm.. it happens.. they could influence us a lot

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    • Shreya Sharma

      May 11, 2017 at 11:16am

      Is it right to be lost in flow, that we tend to not evaluating things as they are?

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      • shewrites170

        May 11, 2017 at 11:58am

        Depends on what the things are. It’s okay to miss out on a weird hairstyle or hair colour but not drug abuse or criminal record.

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        Akhila

        May 12, 2017 at 12:38pm

        Hmm.. I know what you are pointing…sometimes we prefer to be just lost in that love lessons

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  2. boundlessblessingsblog

    May 11, 2017 at 11:01am

    Yes dear we are all biased, only love what we want to see otherwise all are not upto our mark and then we gossip and talk about that person or community. We need to rise above all these things which have no meaning if we want to live a life of love and bliss.

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  3. shifafawaz

    May 11, 2017 at 11:11am

    Yes, I agree…we see things better than they actually are and overlook and ignore the weaknesses and faults of those whom we love so much!
    Sometimes it makes us do a better objective evaluation, but sometimes I feel it forms a curtain and hides the reality and builds up false images in the mind..=/

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      Akhila

      May 12, 2017 at 12:36pm

      Yup shifa… sometimes we put that curtains knowingly but some other times, it happens accidentally

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      • shifafawaz

        May 12, 2017 at 7:16pm

        Haha..yes yes…that’s true as well!

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  4. mylittlepursuitsofhappyness

    May 11, 2017 at 12:09pm

    We often judge a book by its cover rather than going through its contents..the same happens with us humans.. our perceptions matter more than the facts that are just as visible as we perceive.

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  5. Kishan Thakar

    May 11, 2017 at 1:16pm

    that’s the basic of novels. If they don’t use colors in eyes how will they distinguish key characters from sidechicks!!

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  6. unsaid words

    May 11, 2017 at 1:23pm

    Things that are close to us are we are in love with ,we tend to ignore imperfections or have a tendency to see it as too perfect .

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      Akhila

      May 12, 2017 at 12:53pm

      Totally…maybe that’s how it is expected too

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  7. Feelings and Freedom

    May 11, 2017 at 6:25pm

    Actually, since we all are biased, the true meaning of objectivity also differs for each one of us. Something which is logical and objective interpretation for you might not be for me. Am I right, Akhila 🙂

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      Akhila

      May 12, 2017 at 1:10pm

      Ah..that’s the subjective way of approaching things… Still there are certain facts which will be same for you, me and anyone as long it is unapproved.. Like stars appear in night only as long as we have sun in day time

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  8. turbulentjournals

    May 11, 2017 at 6:37pm

    Humans can’t really be humans without being biased. If we were not biased this world would be different

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      Akhila

      May 12, 2017 at 1:14pm

      Ah..liked that..in fact it was the sane thought in my mind..we won’t be humans if we cannot be biased

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  9. Moushmi Radhanpara

    May 11, 2017 at 7:43pm

    I think we as humans can never be totally unbiased. A little bit of favouritism does hint our decisions.

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      Akhila

      May 12, 2017 at 3:07pm

      Yeah..actually I am thinking can we do that while being emotionally so attached

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  10. Bikramjit

    May 12, 2017 at 11:17am

    Yes true.. this bias makes us say things which we probably don’t mean at all.

    Otherwise why do the same blue eyes or lovely hair etc etc turn awful if you fall out with that person…

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      Akhila

      May 12, 2017 at 3:13pm

      Ha ha..you are right bikram..we don’t feel it awful even after repeating 100 times

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  11. Meenakshi Sethi

    May 12, 2017 at 4:29pm

    Yes it happens with me. The people who are good by heart always seems beautiful to me. Though others don’t agree with me.
    Physically we Atleast me notice only those who are strangers to me otherwise all known one look beautiful or otherwise only based on their inner beauty.

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      Akhila

      May 14, 2017 at 8:54pm

      I agree with you meenakshi…I too feel it like all known ones are so nice…

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  12. thewritewomanblog

    May 15, 2017 at 2:56pm

    Your post reminds me of the ‘blue eyes’ that speak volumes in novels. But your interpretation, wow!
    Is not that human nature, to ignore the shortcomings of your loved ones and only see shortcomings in the ones that you don’t fall in the ‘tolerable’ category? It is how we choose to see it, alley Akhi?

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  13. theonlysup

    August 3, 2017 at 11:38am

    Sometimes mind do resist to see anything beyond the obvious that’s when the situation mentioned by you arises ..

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      Akhila

      August 3, 2017 at 2:32pm

      Yeah.. And could happen due to the conditioning of mind too

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  14. Shweta Suresh

    August 3, 2017 at 4:00pm

    It’s nearly impossible to do an objective evaluation when you have the slightest attachment to the subject in question. However if anyone’s capable of that, then they are extraordinary humans indeed. Not everyone is capable of doing that.

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      Akhila

      August 10, 2017 at 9:47am

      Yeah… in fact sometimes I doubt if we become that extra ordinary human, we will lose the sweetness life..isn’t it

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      Akhila

      August 10, 2017 at 9:49am

      Yup..that’s what…after all we are humans..

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  15. Boldbrothers

    August 4, 2017 at 12:44am

    I am very emotionally attached to the P vs NP computer problem because of its complexity and paradoxicalness. By being objective, I become increasingly closer to the “subject”. The same can also be said about humans. I can only help X out of his misery if he lets me examine him without the slightest embellishment of his character. By being objective I am solving a problem, him.

    I think the world would be a much better place if we treated problematic, confused humans (they would first have to tell us that they’re in need) like mathematical equations or rubik’s cubes. If we remain subjective, (attributing positive or negative claims, statements to his or her character without evidence) we will only add to his or her characters obscurity. That has never helped and will never help.

    Thank you for your little blog! You’ve inspired me to write one now about a similar subject! 🙂

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      Akhila

      August 10, 2017 at 9:52am

      I liked your analogy with Rubik’s cube..I accepts your points..but still I wonder how is that possible for you to do an objective evaluation while being attached

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  16. Daisy in the Willows

    August 5, 2017 at 9:48am

    I think some subjects are hard to be objective about. I suppose it is about engaging our critical brain thought processes and try I g to keep an open mind

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      Akhila

      August 10, 2017 at 9:53am

      But is that really possible daisy..I mean practically is that possible?

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