“What do you want to be, a doctor, engineer or a teacher like me? “

Mahitha answered “I want to be happy”

This is short dialogue from the malayalam movie “Vismayam”

To be happy” – That’s what we all want from the bottom of our heart. But is that really appreciated or taken care while ensuring to outdo always?

I am happy to be called as a busybee and yes, I am. But thinking aloud “Is that what I really wanted?”

Maybe Yes.

But won’t I miss the fun of idle moments..? So recently I started to feed this into my brain,

“Do everything that makes you happy as long as it’s not a severe damage for some other.

And have time “to do nothing” and enjoy the fun of idleness.”

Curtain rose. People appeared on stage. There were paints and powders on their faces. All were happily singing and dancing all around. Oh the show didn’t end there too; the masked people were trying to make others happy too. What a fantastic world, hmmm.

I too believed in their show offs until I found some more faces in the stage whose eyes reflecting something deep, some sort of distress. Nothing was spoken by them. But those eyes were trying to convey something on this drama. “What can be done when people try to please each other at the cost of a third person’s comfort?”

Even sometimes my devilish mind imagines all these ‘pleasing games’ to be some dramas or show offs by those people. Can they continue with these manipulations throughout their life just to please some other selflessly? And more over to that while making someone happy they hurt some other souls knowingly or unknowingly. These actors are never bothered on the souls who are hurt by the mutually pleasing games.

Making others happy is indeed a great thing. But it should neither be at the cost of one’s own total comfort nor a third person’s.

Yesterday evening I got a courier from Bluedart. Since I had been already notified, I knew what it was before opening the same, The two complementary copies of my book, “Know Them “.

I was literally so happy to collect the same. So far it was all in digital form and now it appeared physically.  But actually what made me happier was the well pleased voice of my loved ones. That’s the spark which can ignite my whole energy.

So the printed copies of book are ready for pre order from BooksCamel: https://www.bookscamel.com/preorders/knowthem

The proposed date for the printed book to be live on major ecommerce channels is 20-10-2017.

(Till now print version was there in amazon.com and e-book in amazon.in alone. I wanted to make avail the print version in Indian online stores too. So by 20th October the print version would be ready in Indian online stores like Amazon.in, flip kart etc.)

She was overwhelmed with joy when he offered her the tiny globe.

Because she knew how much he valued the little earth.

So what’s your best fit while choosing something for your loved one- A Recipient centric gift or a Giver centric gift?

A recipient centric gift would make the receiver happy always [But only if the giver’s guesses worked properly while selecting the best fit gift].

Now what if your loved one offered you the thing which is most valuable in his/her eyes? Wont it be much more beautiful when you feel that treasure he/she has shared with you [A giver centric gift]

He never cared what is happening around him. Never he looked over shoulders. Never he was seen indulged in loose talks. What to say more, rarely he smiled too….he was not even found showing any gesture of social interactions.

“What a life less soul , he is”, his colleagues pitied him.

“Seems one of his screws is loosely connected”, people sympathized. “How can he be a human without any blah blah chats in life”

But he was least bothered on all such sympathies and gossips

He thought, “Silly people, what do they know about me? Simply wasting their life in all those gossips. When will they understand the worth of what they are losing? Just living if the wind is favourable in their path, spending time peeping over the window of their neighbors. Never you people will understand what I am thinking. So start living, stop cursing me and laughing at me”

After thought: Sometimes  we feel pity for othes thinking about their poor life conditions or unhappiness in life or anything like that. But actually we are fooled in a way. Those people understand everything including our thoughts. And in fact they are feeling pity for us..how ironic!

Found a missed call in my phone. But I was too hesitated to call back. Or something else prevented me to give the courtesy call back

(Definitely the caller was not at all my enemy)..

But somehow I forced myself to call back.

And you know, there was no response from the other side.

And I felt so relieved…I was so happy that I did not have to talk anymore and I haven’t broken any courtesy rules.

Why did I think in this way?

Am I so rude…;)

Is this just a play of my mind..?

(Definitely, this play happens very occasionally only and not at all often. )

More often we easily get numb at the regular causes of heavens in our lives. So I am consciously deciding to become happier and more grateful.

Moreover, these thoughts become fruitful when they are written or spoken to someone rather than simply limiting it to the thoughts.

So why not a gratitude journal? Do you keep one..?

I am challenging myself to explore new things to be thankful for that perhaps I never perceived before.

Hope it won’t limit to an emotion to be documented.. 😉

She was very worried and angry at him yesterday. But she was afraid to question him. She doubted if his ego got hurt on her questioning, it might force him to be away from her.

She wished if he asked about her worries. But nothing happened and his nature forced her to take a back foot.

But she just forgets everything when he touches her. Then she just prefers to be hugged. Even if she may be angry or worried, she just can’t tolerate himself being away from her.

She is not pretending to be happy when he hugs her. But naturally her worries got buried. And hence during those moments, she is afraid to question him on his actions which made her worried.

So her heart plays a game to keep herself alive. On one side it cries for his care & love and on the other side it just excuses/justifies him whenever it’s hurt.

But can her heart play this game always…?

Nooo..

She trusts him blindly and he is the center of her belief. Her heart won’t be alive at all to forgive him, if he has betrayed her love and trust.

So definitely her heart won’t play that game if her belief is lost. She will never give a second chance in such a case. Her trust is almost impossible to earn back. Once lost, it is really lost forever. And she will never regret on losing such a person who didn’t a respect the bonds of love and trust.

And of course trust is not gender specific. I was just trying to portrait the tenderness as well as stubbornness of her behaviour.

Do you mind to check Female Behaviour-1