His voice was never rude even while fed up with the disobedience of his disciples. Never he shouted at them how much tempted he was. He had that patience to keep all them under an umbrella.

And finally without any voice modulation he said to one of them who was at the peak of disobedience, ” If you don’t like to obey the rules or if you don’t want to folllow what is taught, you are free to leave the place”

I know the importance of voice modulation in a public meeting or in any kind of conferences. But here I found what he did was very apt. An angry voice may keep the kids silent for a few minutes, but it can never be useful on a long run, more over could be even harmful too..

hmm.. having that control over one’s own voice is very much essential..above to the reflexive kind of voice modulation, one need to train their own voice to suit to the situation.

 

The child was sleeping so peacefully with her hands resting on a pokemon teddy while her grandma had that holy book in her hand.

Can you see some irony there? Both are having their comfort objects in their hands.

Is God the teddy for grown-ups, a source of comfort or a security object?

Both are offering a kind of protective embrace, a reconstruction of faith.  For the kid it’s the teddy while it’s a version of God for adults, making them escape from some unknown fear.

Kids escape from the fear of darkness with a teddy. He assures himself “someone is there with me always”, like God for grown-ups.

Never rescue your kids from mistakes. If you do, they will just continue the same and never learn to improve. So in effect, parents are spoiling their kids by allowing them to commit the mistakes repeatedly. Instead have a protective eye, ensure their safety, warn them on the consequences, still if they are continuing with their mistakes,  let them do it. They will learn naturally from their consequences. And why not build up some harmless consequences, if they are not learning naturally..;)

And on the other side, if you are not enforcing those rules and disciplinary actions, kids will feel really bad, like you are not bothered on them.. So never hesitate to have disciplinary actions. So switch the mode very often.

Venue: Open FIDE Rated Chess Tournament

Time: 9:30 AM

Timers pressed. Game began.

My opponent was a little girl, not more than 10 years old.  And when the game started I noticed that she had a wrong placement of king and queen (Or something like that, I don’t remember exactly).  I thought, “Oh..this innocent kid, poor girl, why should I make her in trouble” I told her to correct it and the game restarted.

After sometime, she called the arbiter.  Did I make any mistake? My eyes scanned the entire board..no, nothing is wrong.. then what’s wrong with her..I thought.

The timer was placed on my left side, so I was moving pieces with my left hand to meet the law of pressing the timer with the same hand which made move. And as a poke-yoke, I kept a pen in my right hand too and was writing the moves in the notepad.  The cautious me, no..;)

The little girl assumed that I was playing with right hand, as it is the normal way. And when she noticed that I was pressing the timer with left hand, a bulb lighted in her head. Anyway, it didn’t take much time to make it clear for her as the arbiter was the real witness to shield me.

Another 10 or 15 moves over. I did a short castling. Again she stood up.. I scanned my board..the cycle repeated, found nothing wrong. The arbiter came and at once she said that I moved into check. Castling is only forbidden when an opponent’s piece controls a square that the king has to cross. Thanks God, I am saved this time, too. She might have got mistaken by the rules.

After a few more moves, she called the arbiter again. My heartbeats started to increase. And this time, she had a complaint about the table, that it’s not steady.. Anyway the arbiter solved this problem too…the match continued..

Please don’t ask me who win or lose the match, I give full credit to that little girl as she gave me an alternative insight to her generation.

Nothing is impossible.

mind block

There is a block in the mind which makes us less adventurous. When we overcome this mind block, impossibility becomes possibility.

When a kid starts to explore something new, just be with him/her and support instead  of preventing him/her from doing the same. Majority of the parents, being concerned on the safety of their kid, starts telling like ‘don’t do that, you can’t do that, it’s dangerous etc’.

And when they grow up, these thoughts are rooted in their mind and they starts thinking about the impossibilities. They start thinking whether they can do it or not.  In fact when they were a kid, never they might have thought about any impossibility. Everything was under their arms or big mind.

Being elder, where did this self-confidence get buried?

Yes, our mind is something which is getting tuned to the circumstances.

It gets tuned to whatever we hear in the childhood.

It gets tuned to whatever we see in the childhood.

And the mind block starts to develop within us unknowingly. We could never realize it. We are tuned. We simply believe that ‘it’ can not be done by me.

Tell your mind

“you are awesome; you can create wonders in the world; you can rule the impossibilities”