Are you a soft mom/dad..?

or

Are you soft son/daughter..?

Nowadays we often hear words like ‘ I didn’t have time’ or ‘I was running short of time’ or ‘sorry, I am a bit delayed’

Well, time management is not my todays’ concern.

But we are often forced to compromise certain things in life due to ‘this lack of time issue’. And the most easily compromised is ‘child-parent relationship’ in today’s stressed life.

Every parent can recall a time when their frustration level went through the roof, and their emotional reactions to their children were not adequate to the situation.

Parents won’t understand that their timelessness is changing their routine life or raising their temper even for small small things in the family. And kids are often their victims because they are the naughty boxes.

Kids are supposed to be naughty, that’s their birth right. So yelling may stop them for a moment from their naughtiness. But they too have an emotional heart and it needs to be realized how badly the little heart is affected..!!

The situation is under control how quickly the parent presses the pause button. There are two things to be taken care after pressing the button

  • Limit the impulsive outbursts as far as possible
  • Take a genuine effort to restore the condition after an outburst.

After all, every parent wants their kids to be grown up as emotionally healthy persons.

And the situation is just reversed when the kids are grownups and by that time the parents would have become grandparents…now it’s the kids turn to show their timelessness and rudeness upon their parents.. And the cycle just repeats.. Even if people have time, sometimes they just pretend to be busy to give a five minutes call to his/her mom/dad.. They just pretend to be unaware of the emotions of their “home-alone parents”

So where is the exit..?

Ask oneself

Are you a soft mom/dad..? or Are you soft son/daughter..?

version 1:

Son   : Mom, why are you never getting tired ?

Mom : How can I, when you are my first priority?

 

version 2:

Son   : Mom, why are you never getting tired ?

Mom :  I don’t mind being tired when you are there all around me.