Recently I read a story of a revolutionist [or I am not sure if it was a film] who wore white dresses only always. When she was about to die, she asked for a green jacket. People thought she has become crazy due to illness and ignored her wish. She died without fulfilling her wish.

She sacrificed her entire life for the wellbeing of the society and finally died as a crazy woman just because of her desire for a green jacket while being on the deathbed.

Why was she forced to suppress her entire emotions while being alive?

Why couldn’t she express her felt emotions?

Was it a part of the so called “disciplined life”?

Obviously “a green jacket” was not at all big thing.. still it was banned in her life for some reasons.

May be a conflict was happening inside her mind between felt and expressed emotions.

Finally she could express a little bit of it only when she was becoming unconscious, nearing death.

And then why did people misunderstand her when she expressed a bit of it during her final moments?

 

“When people are running, you should run in the middle”

It’s a proverb actually meaning ‘one must strive to assimilate to the norm’.

Maybe it’s another prejudice wall built in the minds of people asking to change yourself when everyone around you is changing. And people easily fall in to that just to avoid that “awkward” state of being odd.

But,

Why do you need to go with the normal flow? You are living in your priorities and comfort. Of course, sometimes your priorities may overrule your comfort. But as long as you are only setting up your priorities and defining your comfort, why should you run in the middle of the crowd and make yourself less creative?

Okay, if you still wish to run in the middle ( as you are afraid of oddness or uniqueness) while people around you are running, better not to let your feet run faster than your shoes and make yourself fall. 

 

She 1: I would like to do that

She 2: Oh such a silly thing….

She 3: Leave it yaar…this is not how it has to be.

She 1: Should I leave it..?

She 4: You should not leave it, only because of these words. It could be silly or not, thoughtful or not, but it’s your own interest. It should not be altered merely on hearing some negative words. Yes, you can think more on those negative vibes, but finally you must have an unbiased mind. You must have that willpower to decide your path against the so called society presumptions.

She 5: So never pay attention to “This is how it has to be” messages. And never be bothered on hearing words like “don’t talk such silly rubbish stuffs”. You only have the right to decide what all rubbishes to be played upon and no one else.

She 1: Thanks dears, I understand

Silly or not, thoughtful or not, never leave one’s interest merely on consuming some demotivating vibes from the environs. Just go with one’s own unbiased confident mind.”

“It is like that”

“Do it as such”

Many a times we hear these kinda words. And we let ourselves to be ruled by those prejudiced notions.

We are not born to be stereotyped, but somehow got tuned in that way.

And very rarely a counter question is asked “why is it like that?”

Okay, leave it if you are trying to make prejudice wall sturdier. Be a stereotyped and use the ink of prejudiced notions to build your world, after all it’s a great time saver, no…;) you don’t have to over think.. just need to respond based on the preconceived notions. And live peacefully the rest of your life in that stereotyped world. (Ah!)

 

“അത്താഴത്തിനു അത്രയൊക്കെയേ വിധിച്ചിട്ടുള്ളു”, കലിനാരായണന്‍ നായര്‍ പറഞ്ഞു.
“ആരാ വിധിച്ചത്?”, അമ്മമ്മ ചോദിച്ചു.
അമ്മമ്മയുടെ ചോദ്യത്തിനു മറുപടി പറയാന്‍ അയാള്‍ മിനക്കെട്ടില്ല.

——  നീര്‍മാതളം പൂത്തകാലം

“ഒന്നിനും സ്ഥായിയായ വിധിയില്ലെന്നു തെളിയിക്കുന്ന ചോദ്യമാണതു”. മാധവിക്കുട്ടി എന്ന വലിയ എഴുത്തുകാരി അമ്മമ്മയുടെ അരുമയായതും ഈ സ്വഭാവം കൊണ്ടു തന്നെയാവും.