People come and leave our life while some are glued to our hearts. It’s easy to be among strangers as there is no obligations, no demands, no expectations etc etc [Read about “The comfort while being with strangers“]. But when it’s about the glued ones, there is some sort of happiness and at the same time some sort of nervousness too.

What’s that nervousness with them..?

Is it the worries about sustaining the relationship? But does it really matter if they really understand you? Is there any extra effort required to sustain the relationship if there exists a healthy relationship?

No… so what’s that cause of uneasiness or nervousness..?

Is it fear of losing them..? Possible.. You don’t want to miss them as they have become a part of your life and it would be painful if lost them.. Oh.. So isn’t it a selfish thought?.. Like you don’t want to make yourself worried, so you want them to be with you.. hmm…

If you don’t think it to be selfishness, is there any other cause for that uneasiness?

Is it like you have to keep an image with them? ..Say like you are of the type “What others think?”

Okay, if still you think that none of the reasons matches that uneasiness, what else it could be..?

Is it like you love them, care them and trust them, but still feel lonely with them? Like they are not being there for you emotionally. You feel rejected while you were starving for their attention. You are supported neither in your highest good nor in your bad.

Is it like you are never on the same page? So while trying to be on the same page, folds and cuts appear in the page. Those marks remain forever while trying to make yourself fit in to that page, making you uncomfortable.

Is it due to the absence of comfort zone you have with them? You are not free enough to be frank in front of them or you think they don’t let you get inside their zone.

Or is it the sense of wanting to belong as posted here ? When the possessiveness comes in to picture one cannot live without expectations. You worry about the unattended emotions. You are bothered on the lack of acknowledgements.

If you could compromise all these for the sake of peace, well obviously it would be easy to maintain a relationship. But will it be an intimate one then?

So ultimately it makes one to ponder that

You need to work hard at a relationship. So there is no need of feeling down if people say ‘you are in a bad choice’ seeing you working hard.

Ultimately it’s your life and your choice. No one else is responsible for the same. Do whatever makes you happy and positive. And own whatever you do.

Thinking aloud why it should be treated as a big problem after all? Just ….

Work to meet your dreams, but with less chaos in your routine

The favourable ambiance marks the difference between “Just get it done” and “Get it done better”

It’s easy to go ahead when everything is favorable. And then things are just accomplished. No more thoughts, no more questions, no more answers, just done in the way it is expected.

Now what happens when it’s not easy, when the ambiance is not favorable , do things get done better? Then, Chances are high to feel your actual power, I suppose, as in Notion of the day.. what do you think?.. Will it aid you to step out of your comfort zone and make it better?

 

Give up ice-creams and feel your willpower

Work with uneasy tasks and feel your strength

Teacher : I saw some of your paintings.

Student  : I am really passionate on painting. How do you feel on them, Sir?

Teacher : Good..You paint well. But your passion alone won’t drive you.

Student  : I am in damn love with painting. But yes, sometimes I feel bored.

Teacher : It’s not just enough to have a passion and skill.

Student  : Sir..?

Teacher : It’s not just enough to wish for something or want something. You need to handle the boredom of repetition, the boredom of repeated process.

Student  : Sir, how can I escape from that boredom?

Teacher :  You cannot escape from that boredom. It is humane. You need to find your own way to work through boredom. There are no magic sticks to inspire you every time. You need to put in hours and time. You should not make yourself driven by priceless emotions when you have a great goal to achieve. You need to love that boredom of repetition and make yourself under continuous practice.

Student  : Yes Sir, I understand, ‘It’s not enough to have a passion, need to have a work ethic too’. Anyone can work better when inspired, but the real performer is the one who performs the best even when no one is there to motivate him.

Few days back Mrudula asked me “Plans made for studying never work.. Isn’t it? “

What will you answer her?

Isn’t it a clock or a time table coming to our mind whenever we think about planning?

Is that enough for planning..? Are you focused on time planning ..? ( splitting the tasks on a timely mode)

Recently I read some interview of an IAS candidate. He was telling like never did he cut down his lessons as the planned time is over. He worked over night to meet the deadlines and completed his studies without compromising the quality of his studies.

He had a great point there.

Have your goals fixed in both time domain as well as in quality domain, have intermittent targets, work hard. That’s it.

A question to all working home makers…

” If you get a chance to take a break from your household work or office work, definitely not both together.. which will you prefer..? ”

Be genuine to your mind..

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