There is no question if said “make decisions without emotions involved”. But can that really happen? Can a decision be taken using the brain alone?

Always a choice is finalized with an emotion even while being driven by logic, sometimes more reactive and some other times less reactive.  These responses are actually the subconscious choices.  So what’s actually wrong in obeying the subconscious mind as long as the choices are not purely driven by poor emotional conclusions alone?

Of course mistakes can happen with emotionally biased quick judgments. And hence if there is no immediate danger, don’t let your emotional brain to overrule the logical brain.

Similarly a pure logical decision can mislead us in a direction opposite to our self-interests. So why not keep a little bit of emotions [ but not any quick judgments] even while being driven by rational thoughts?

Don’t be angry at your kids even when they push the anger button because they are teaching you how to be patient

Recently I read a story of a revolutionist [or I am not sure if it was a film] who wore white dresses only always. When she was about to die, she asked for a green jacket. People thought she has become crazy due to illness and ignored her wish. She died without fulfilling her wish.

She sacrificed her entire life for the wellbeing of the society and finally died as a crazy woman just because of her desire for a green jacket while being on the deathbed.

Why was she forced to suppress her entire emotions while being alive?

Why couldn’t she express her felt emotions?

Was it a part of the so called “disciplined life”?

Obviously “a green jacket” was not at all big thing.. still it was banned in her life for some reasons.

May be a conflict was happening inside her mind between felt and expressed emotions.

Finally she could express a little bit of it only when she was becoming unconscious, nearing death.

And then why did people misunderstand her when she expressed a bit of it during her final moments?

 

You can’t be without me

As I am the girl for your soul

You are fooling yourself when

You just make me go away

Wrap your arms around me

As you want me as much as I do

Hug me tight from my back

As our hearts do beat as one

Don’t try to make everything smoother for a finishing beauty. Smooth concrete surfaces without a broom touch would be slippery on a rainy day.

 

എന്നോര്‍മ്മകളിലൊരു തണലായ

ലിഞ്ഞില്ലാതാവാന്‍ നീയോര്‍ത്തു

വെന്നാലറിഞ്ഞീടുക, ബന്ധനം

ചെയ്തു ഞാന്‍ നിന്നെയേറെ മുമ്പേ

മഞ്ഞു പെയ്യുമീയിലപ്പടര്‍പ്പിനുള്ളിലായ്

 

It was a clean murder. Still no one was much concerned. No one even said a word about her. Normally when someone is no more, people start pitying them, say good words about them. But nothing like that happened in her case now. She was my ever best friend. So it is indeed an irreparable loss for me.

But what can I do?

In this world it’s me only who can’t ever forget her. Two waterfalls have already begun from my watery eyes. I feel so lonely without her. She could only make me complete. Without her I am just a piece of lifeless flesh and bones.

Oh! God, I need her back at any cost.

Now I pity myself for killing her over the intuition of my logical brain. At that time there had a fight between my logical brain and emotional mind. And finally the logical brain won ever the poor emotional mind.

Yes, I am the murderer of my own emotional mind. I killed her and buried her deep inside my heart.

“Please come back my friend, and let me be with you”

 

Whenever the rhythm

Of my life is mystified,

I hear a mystical note

Driving me to accept

The beats of my soul

And I get synced again

Why should a person be punished if he or she doesn’t understand or accept his mistakes? Obviously he/she will continue with the same punished behavior behind our back.

I am trying to watch it in a broader sense, say like starting from parents punishing kids to the punishments by the court. In all cases, if one cannot understand his/her mistake, won’t it be repeated?

May be kids won’t do it in their parents presence. But definitely they will do in their parent’s absence. These punishments are just making them a little bit polite, but not moral. They may appear disciplined for a while, but not forever if they don’t understand the wrongs in their side.

Reminds me of this Malayalam song sung by Vineeth Sreenivasan in the movie Oru Vadakkan Selfie “Enne thallendammava njan nannavoola. Mandeel adiyum vare njan nannavoola” [Meaning “No need to beat me uncle, I won’t change good”]

No one would change actually if he/she is not convinced on the mistakes. Simply they may try to avoid the home of punishments. Whenever the situation changes in their favor or if they are not watched, the real nature will be exposed.

And moreover the thought ‘I am being watched’ can actually damage one’s peace, cause stress and ultimately lead to unavoidable crises.

Another point dancing in front of me right now is “If one accepts and feels guilty of his mistakes, should he/she be really punished again?” He already had the punishment of guilty feeling, so why again?

So aren’t these punishments bad weapons? Still why is it being used everywhere?

Or are these punishments showcased as a threat to the future criminals to make them beware of the consequences?

This being a world of ‘add-ons’ I feel some add-ons are required with the current punishments strategy too where in some views must be put before punishing straightaway so as to make them aware of the actual mistakes.

Otherwise what’s the use “If a criminal never regrets on what he has done”? Or otherwise either he must have some solid reasons behind the crime or he must be psychic as posted in Crime is a crime. But who cares his feeling while punishing him straightaway?