
She was very worried and angry at him yesterday. But she was afraid to question him. She doubted if his ego got hurt on her questioning, it might force him to be away from her.
She wished if he asked about her worries. But nothing happened and his nature forced her to take a back foot.
But she just forgets everything when he touches her. Then she just prefers to be hugged. Even if she may be angry or worried, she just can’t tolerate himself being away from her.
She is not pretending to be happy when he hugs her. But naturally her worries got buried. And hence during those moments, she is afraid to question him on his actions which made her worried.
So her heart plays a game to keep herself alive. On one side it cries for his care & love and on the other side it just excuses/justifies him whenever it’s hurt.
But can her heart play this game always…?
Nooo..
She trusts him blindly and he is the center of her belief. Her heart won’t be alive at all to forgive him, if he has betrayed her love and trust.
So definitely her heart won’t play that game if her belief is lost. She will never give a second chance in such a case. Her trust is almost impossible to earn back. Once lost, it is really lost forever. And she will never regret on losing such a person who didn’t a respect the bonds of love and trust.
And of course trust is not gender specific. I was just trying to portrait the tenderness as well as stubbornness of her behaviour.
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Once lost, it’s always lost forever. I really loved this one, Akhila. 🙂
thank you very much Sumit.
yes, there won’t be a second chance. A broken heart can be mended, but not in whole again as before.
I can relate to to it Akhila. 🙂
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Great analysis Akhila…
Thanks a lot zygs. Do you agree with me in this analysis..?
it is my belief that a woman is forced by her own inner self to gain the lost trust back… she gets cheated over and over but she never looses her belief in her partner, hoping to get things better.. You may think differently and i completely respect your point of view.. or does the analysis differ from person to person…
yes, I too respect your views..and one thing is for sure, we all have got good memory especially in those lines and never we could forget such pains. If she can’t forget how could she forgive him ? A broken heart can never be healed perfectly.
you are right my dear… thanks for sharing
You must be exceptional and too strong to not give a second chance.
well.. i believe today’s girls will be like this.. not a case of exceptional or not..
thanks Dhiraj..
I also mentioned considering today’s girls only.
hmm.. but what do you really feel..? Is is good to give a second chance and live in doubtful state
No should not be given.
ha.now you are on my track… thumbs up..:)
Probably in first part of the post, the fear that you have shown is the reason, second chances are given by most girls.
I understand.. But my question was what will you do if you were a girl..?
Depends on the insecurities I would have nurtured within me if I was a girl.
yeah.. it also accounts
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breach of trust in love..no second chances! but…. nice article again, A!!
but what..?
thanks Hari..
Sad, but real life is a mix of insecurities, compromises and forgiving…
btw, is this just a reflection of female behaviour? Doesn’t it encompass the male species also? Beautifully expressed and thought provoking article, Akhila
yes, absolutely it is applicable to both gender. But I was trying to express the soft hardheartedness as well as the stubbornness in female beahviour. She will sacrifice anything for her love except the trust
fully agreeeeee…. yes, tender and yet stubborn! and ‘vishwaasam alle ellam’!!
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tx, Ayachu
Trust as is commonly noted is like a sheet of paper, crumbled.. The paper can be ironed back but the creases remain.. Need not limit it to just women or a spousal/love relationship. I would say in any ..
Trust I feel is a very intimate feeling or the most intimate of all feelings with anyone.. Once gone, we’ll be cautious esp with the same person!
Good train of thoughts there A
yes, you are absolutely right, once trust is gone, we will be very careful while dealing with the same person.
I think trust is something which both the gender expects from their partner and both would be definitely disappointed if this trust is broken.. But then jumping to the conclusion without interacting should be avoided … I’m sure everyone has reasons for their actions so knowing it would make life more easier..isn’t it?? Just my opinion 🙂
yeah.. I respect your views..jumping into the conclusion should be avoided…and as you said it is a clear case applicable to both sides..
True. And about 2nd chance.. I don’t know what to comment. They know their partners well.. If they feel he/she is genuinely sorry and has good acceptance level may be they can give a chance. Else up to their choice. In fact life has given us many 2nd chances in many aspects. Point is are we learning from it and making our lives better or are we ruining it. ?? Same applies in relationship as well …
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Naah what does this smiley mean ??
True. And about 2nd chance.. I don’t know what to comment. They know their partners well.. If they feel he/she is genuinely sorry and has good acceptance level may be they can give a chance. Else up to their choice. In fact life has given us many 2nd chances in many aspects. Point is are we learning from it and making our lives better or are we ruining it. ?? Same applies in relationship as well .
Second chances means never fully being able to trust again. My thoughts are is it worth it?
Absolutely daisy. and thank you…
never could a broken heart be mended s before
Wonderful post..”A broken heart can be mended, but not in whole again as before.” this words in your comment section made me speechless ..:)
thank you so much.. I am honored with your words.
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I love your words…the real feelings of a girl
Thanks Anagha..I am glad with your words..
Reality check .. Every guy has done this .. nicely put into words
thanks for your kind words..but may I know what do you mean by every guy has done this, you mean losing trust with the partner..? is it so common..?
oh okay…now I understand.. seeing the comment over here, I also wondered..
I wrote the essence of this post on my post…what coincidence…
yes…I too felt so happy after knowing a similar mind..
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well penned this Akhila.
thanks Nitin
Welcome Akhila 🙂
” She will never give a second chance in such a case. Her trust is almost impossible to earn back. Once lost, it is really lost forever. And she will never regret on losing such a person who didn’t a respect the bonds of love and trust.”—- very well said Akhila. Its hard yet sometimes we have to put full stops, when the time gets exceeded. We never regret on on such decisions 🙂
Absolutely true. I am glad that we share the same views. Yes, it is pretty hard to take up that decision. but it is essential ,otherwise she is fooling herself by allowing her partner to misuse her weakness
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When string of trust is broken there will always be a knot to join it again.
will that knot be powerful as before..?
Definitely not….
so why do we need that again.. just for the sake..?
Ah the feeling of being torn by his absence and his touch … well portrayed. I think trust levels vary from person to person. In a case such as this trusting the same person, I don’t think it would be as strong as the first time.
of course you are right Ranjini.. never she could trust the same person again as before.. whe she make herself to be fooled..?
Yeah trust is not gender specific……and you definitely portrayed our behavior.
thank you so much.. I am so happy with your words..
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The problem with trust is that one is too scared to see the truth and keeps postponing facing the truth. So, she is living moment to moment but her long term future is in a dilemma. She knows that very well and yet, allows her heart to be convinced that all is okay.
The dichotomy of love.
She is in for a huge heart break. I just hope she is strong enough.
ya.. i too wish for the betterment of the entire soul…trusty or not, let her win the game
‘On one side it cries for his care & love and on the other side it just excuses/justifies him whenever it’s hurt’. Perfectly penned. loved it
Haha yes it is.
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Nice post….. Trust lost can never b mended. How true
Yup…exactly