“How helpful she is! “.
“He only paid the entire hospital bills. How great he is!”
You might have heard these kinds of conversations. Have you wondered thinking about the greatness of that helper?
But before judging their greatness, have a keen eye upon their helpful deeds.
In this self centered world, there is very little chance to be helped sincerely without a hidden motive in the helper’s mind. You may disagree with me wearing the shoe of a genuine helper. So obviously exceptions are there. But now let us think on those helping hands who have some secret agenda behind them.
Yes, it is there, whether you realize it or not. There is a secret agenda behind almost every helping hand.
And the most evil thing is when someone makes you believe that ‘you are helped by them while in fact he/she hasn’t played any role at all’.
What could be the motive of those helping hands.. .
- With a little investment, they are looking for fame.
- A give and take policy, even if the ‘take’ may be at a later point of time.
- Hiding their own great benefits while portraying the service to others.
The first two are not that harmful. And the most trickster aspect is the last one. People will try to seek their own benefits under the impression of a helping hand. And they will be marketing themselves very tactically such that all around you will be deeply impressed with their help. They pretend as if they are servicing you, but there will be a hidden motive of self service.
Once we realize this, feel so much irritated with their help. And do you know how difficult it is to escape from their helping hand?
Personally I don’t like to be helped unless and otherwise no other options in front of me. There are two things which pull me back from being helped. First thing is the secret agenda of helping hand and secondly I don’t like to be dependent, cutting my wings.