Reluctant to ask..why?

By | April 20, 2017

I don’t mind helping you in the best way I can, but I am reluctant to ask for your help though I know that there are people who even like it. (Without having any Secret agenda behind the helping hands )

Have you tried to figure out the reasons behind this reluctance..? Or are you of the other type, ‘no worries to be helped’?

How to ask for what you need is an art. Being in a people driven world, we can’t live in isolation. So earlier the better if one can learn that art. We need to know the reason behind this reluctance, and then only one can decide whether to overcome it or not

So what do you think? Is it due to a thought arising from any of these attitudes?

  • No favour please
  • It’s obligatory
  • Can’t be burden for you
  • I am perfectionist, don’t like the way you do
  • Afraid of the judgemental reaction from others
  • Worried upon exposing my inability
  • My ego
  • Afraid of being confused further after the help
  • Fear of being rejected

32 thoughts on “Reluctant to ask..why?

  1. mathias sager

    I’m reluctant to ask for help sometimes because if I genuinely return the favor, I’m afraid of causing a feeling of obligation to the other person to reciprocate again. However, thinking again, we should probably just ask more for help as indeed many people like helping very much! Great post, thanks

    1. Akhila Post author

      Thanks a lot Mathias. You reflect my voice in that feeling of obligation..

    1. Akhila Post author

      It’s okay to help the needy..but sometimes some mind blocks in receiving a help

  2. Jeni G.J

    It’s like I know I can do it myself. So I won’t use you for my need. If I can’t do it myself, I’ll definitely ask you a favour.

  3. Colors of my life

    In my case, I love to do things myself, unless and until I am fully exhausted. I love to research about a given task.

    Like these days, my wife want kitchen cabinets. I have no issue in buying, and we went as well.

    But I don’t know what stuck me, I said, I want to make by myself. So these days, learning myself how to do woodworking and doing things.

    So that’s another angle, it’s not ego or I can’t do it. I want to do it, that I don’t want your help.

    1. Akhila Post author

      Welll..that’s a powerful notion..I really appreciate that learning mentality

  4. Shweta Suresh

    I believe that some of those can be the reason why many people hesitate to ask for help or favour of any kind..

  5. mywords331

    It is really an art and this reluctance is in most of ours behaviour.
    But yes earlier the better..
    We should learn this art.

  6. Shweta Suresh

    Ohhh oru single reason illathond aayirikkum. I believe the reason or reasons will differ from person to person. Athukond kore reason + oru etc might be the best answer. 😉 😀


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