I don’t mind helping you in the best way I can, but I am reluctant to ask for your help though I know that there are people who even like it. (Without having any Secret agenda behind the helping hands )
Have you tried to figure out the reasons behind this reluctance..? Or are you of the other type, ‘no worries to be helped’?
How to ask for what you need is an art. Being in a people driven world, we can’t live in isolation. So earlier the better if one can learn that art. We need to know the reason behind this reluctance, and then only one can decide whether to overcome it or not
So what do you think? Is it due to a thought arising from any of these attitudes?
- No favour please
- It’s obligatory
- Can’t be burden for you
- I am perfectionist, don’t like the way you do
- Afraid of the judgemental reaction from others
- Worried upon exposing my inability
- My ego
- Afraid of being confused further after the help
- Fear of being rejected
I can’t find one in nine . It may b depend on situation. 9 reason has a small role in my life.
Yeah..it may depend on situation
I’m reluctant to ask for help sometimes because if I genuinely return the favor, I’m afraid of causing a feeling of obligation to the other person to reciprocate again. However, thinking again, we should probably just ask more for help as indeed many people like helping very much! Great post, thanks
Thanks a lot Mathias. You reflect my voice in that feeling of obligation..
Hmmm sometimes ego comes into play and then we would not want to do anything for anyone. Great words Akhila.
It’s okay to help the needy..but sometimes some mind blocks in receiving a help
Yes absolutely true dear and mind is the real block.
Hmm..
It’s like I know I can do it myself. So I won’t use you for my need. If I can’t do it myself, I’ll definitely ask you a favour.
Hmm.. good then.. you are free of that reluctance..
In my case, I love to do things myself, unless and until I am fully exhausted. I love to research about a given task.
Like these days, my wife want kitchen cabinets. I have no issue in buying, and we went as well.
But I don’t know what stuck me, I said, I want to make by myself. So these days, learning myself how to do woodworking and doing things.
So that’s another angle, it’s not ego or I can’t do it. I want to do it, that I don’t want your help.
Welll..that’s a powerful notion..I really appreciate that learning mentality
Fear of being rejected, and can’t be a burden for you!
Mm.. why should we make others in trouble in both cases..
I believe that some of those can be the reason why many people hesitate to ask for help or favour of any kind..
My ego
I can’t be a burden on others and also I feel shy but my daughter is helping me change this attitude.
so sweet of her
It is really an art and this reluctance is in most of ours behaviour.
But yes earlier the better..
We should learn this art.
Thanks neha. So you too think that we should learn this art..hmm..
Worried upon exposing my inability and I might get confused just after hearing the solution….
Wonderful
Need to figure out things by myself with a positive attitude….
Yeah..good luck
Enitt full explanation provide cheyyunna reasons kandu pidicho? 😉 😀
Ohhh oru single reason illathond aayirikkum. I believe the reason or reasons will differ from person to person. Athukond kore reason + oru etc might be the best answer. 😉 😀
Ha ha…aa etc Anu kittathathu
Athu kond nammuk etc ennu vilikaam. 😉 Oru survey nadathiyal answers kittumayirikkumo?
Is it not a combination of them all?
Some in negligible degrees and others some more.
Depending on the situation
Athey