What to do when you become a victim of circumstances?

By | August 16, 2019

Did you get affected by something around which you may have no control at all? 
Wondered how you became a victim of circumstances?
You did nothing to cause that loss, still you became the victim of actions or inactions of others. 

Yes, for some reasons, maybe sometimes without even a reason we all become victims of circumstances. We can’t be the captain of our lives always.

You lost someone close to you in an accident, a car just dashed into her even though she was carefully walking through the footpath. People call it as her fate (fate or not, I don’t know if there is a supernatural power tossing the Dice or rolling some cause-effect wheels to determine your fate). Anyways she became a victim of circumstances.

But for the circumstances you created, don’t try to garnish yourself with a victim label. It was your failure to do it on time which made you suffer the loss.  That’s a clear case of causal relation or the so called “Karmmaphala
Also don’t use it as an excuse for bad behaviour like a crew thrown in jail  who still claims to be a victim of circumstances.

What to do when you become a true victim of circumstances ?
Believe in the power of hard work and right attitude. The results, let it be success or failure, take it apart as there is a role to be played by the circumstances too. Once you realize that,  you won’t self criticize for not being at the right place at the right time. And at the same don’t look for empathy from outside

Rise up from self pitying or a victim mind set as you need to survive (after all, if you read this at least you are alive and surviving so as me, no asteroids has so far taken our lives from the earth). How you come out of an adverse situation  shows your sustenance. 

Who is the captain of your life- you or your circumstances? 
Life is a mixture where you can taste the flavours of your own actions or nonactions as well as that of others. Keep your attitude up and work hard, let your passion be stronger than your weakness, leave the rest to the universal justice( a cause – effect relation which may be above to our consciousness to grasp) or randomness (things are just random or just some coincidences, and we are being fooled by this randomness ) 

Whatever happened was not in your control, so now its time to change yourself from a victim mindset to the mindset of being at cause. Again something which you have no control may happen tomorrow, breaking you into pieces. Then  give enough space and time for your mind to come back. It will survive as you already have an attitude of being at cause.  

10 thoughts on “What to do when you become a victim of circumstances?

  1. Shweta Suresh

    Really thought-provoking. നമ്മുടെ പകുതി ഭംഗിയായി ചെയ്താൽ പിന്നെ ദൈവത്തിന്റെ പകുതി automatically okay, right?

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  2. Dave Kingsbury

    You strike a nice balance. And how much control any of us have is a philosophical question, for sure, but can also be a political one …

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  3. Sha'Tara

    As I was reading your post, I was trying to imagine what it would feel like to be convinced one is a victim or circumstance(s). I can’t imagine it simply because I am not the envying type. To feel victimized (in the sense of this post) is to live in envy of others’ so-called good fortune. Before I came home and read your post, I had been thinking about what my life would be like if I lived in a billionaire’s home, as wife, or child for example. All I could imagine was how terribly boring life would be, and then I understood why these people are addicted to their money, and to “More Money” syndrome: they are quite mad. They are victims of self-created circumstances. They are trapped. They could, of course, give away their fortunes and keep just enough to live a comfortable and normal life, but they are driven by their fear of “not having enough.” A victim of circumstance, methinks, is driven by the fear of not having enough or the need to have more than others.
    “I must not fear. Fear is the mind-killer. Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration. I will face my fear. I will permit it to pass over me and through me. And when it has gone past I will turn the inner eye to see its path. Where the fear has gone there will be nothing. Only I will remain.” ― Frank Herbert, Dune

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    1. Akhila Post author

      I don’t think it need to be rooted in envy always..there are chances to be jealous of others when you are just self pitying while dwelling over the past. But it doesn’t always imply to be the fear for not having enough .
      Here many states were severely affected by floods. In fact in Kerala it happened consequently in these 2 years..it was a kind of once in a century’s event earlier , but now the things have changed..hills are getting destroyed, so as rivers and trees , causing these calamities .those who suffered are not the real people causing the issue…they became the victims of circumstances created by someone else..and those who created these are all safe and enjoying the weather…whom to be blamed here? Is it the fate? Where is the universal justice…when 2 year old baby was brutally raped and killed , what was the cause effect relation ruling her life?…karmmaphala or cause effect relation or universal justice…is there anyone to control this…well I Donno…that’s why nowadays I am falling for randomness even though I am trying to be at cause too at least to safeguard my discipline . So what can be done when we become victims of circumstances created by someone else? “Work hard with your attitude”

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  4. thelonelyauthorblog

    Great post full of wisdom. Adopting that “victim” mentality will only leads to more heartbreak. Negativity leads to making wrong decisions which only brings on negative events and negativity.
    It is a cycle that one can easy fall into.

    Happy Monday

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    1. Akhila Post author

      Thanks a lot Drew, happy to see you again..you are absolutely right, victim mindset can only further lead to negativities..

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