Did you get affected by something around which you may have no control at all?
Thinking how you became a victim of circumstances?
You did nothing to cause that loss, still you became the victim of actions or inactions of others.
Yes, for some reasons, maybe sometimes without even a reason we all become victims of circumstances. We can’t be the captain of our lives always.
You lost someone close to you in an accident, a car just dashed into her even though she was carefully walking through the footpath. People call it as her fate (fate or not, I don’t know if there is a supernatural power tossing the Dice or rolling some cause-effect wheels to determine your fate). Anyways she became a victim of circumstances.
But for the circumstances you created, don’t try to garnish yourself with a victim label. It was your failure to do it on time which made you suffer the loss. That’s a clear case of causal relation or the so called “Karmmaphala“
Also don’t use it as an excuse for bad behaviour like a crew thrown in jail who still claims to be a victim of circumstances.
What to do when you become a true victim of circumstances ?
Believe in the power of hard work and right attitude. The results, let it be success or failure, take it apart as there is a role to be played by the circumstances too. Once you realize that, you won’t self criticize for not being at the right place at the right time. And at the same don’t look for empathy from outside.
Rise up from self pitying or a victim mind set as you need to survive (after all, if you read this at least you are alive and surviving so as me, no asteroids has so far taken our lives from the earth). How you come out of an adverse situation shows your sustenance.
Who is the captain of your life- you or your circumstances?
Life is a mixture where you can taste the flavours of your own actions or nonactions as well as that of others.
Keep your attitude up and work hard, let your passion be stronger than your weakness, leave the rest to the universal justice( a cause – effect relation which may be above to our consciousness to grasp) or randomness (things are just random or just some coincidences, and we are being fooled by this randomness )
Whatever happened was not in your control, so now its time to change yourself from a victim mindset to the mindset of being at cause.
Again something which you have no control may happen tomorrow, breaking you into pieces. Then give enough space and time for your mind to come back. It will survive as you already have an attitude of being at cause.