“To the incredible woman in the world..” So many similar messages are spreading and trending in social media now since it being the Women’s day.
I know very well that I do exist in a patriarchal society so as any other women
But please don’t fancify us by saying,
‘You are patient, Goddess, born nurtures, unselfish and what not’
We may or may not be as any other gender
‘you are mother..wife..woman… You are caring.. bearing..working’
Yes, Yes.. I know.. you don’t have to emphasize
I don’t want you to praise my strength,
‘cause I’m already stronger than to rise above your compliment-traps
I’m not here to sacrifice myself for flattering
I can do anything
That doesn’t imply I have to deal every responsibility with a smile
That doesn’t imply I’ve to conceal my worries
I’ve my limits
I’m unconditional, but not unlimited
I’m not a woman who never tires
I’m not a woman without dreams and desires
I am not anyone’s possessions
I am not a weaker sex, but a human
I’m a woman of purpose
But you don’t have to define me
I’m one of a kind and I do have my rights and wrongs
If you respect my morals, I can accept that
But not ‘cause I am a woman
If I treat you well, treat me good
Respect me if I deserve your respect
That’s enough, nothing more nothing less
Treat me like a person, not as an authority or favor
and enter not into my personal boundaries
Give my space, just don’t even stare
If I’m a stranger just let me be a stranger throughout
My dear sisters,
wake up and break the bias
no one owns you
enough is enough
You don’t have to give your all
Know your limits
Because the more you are pushed beyond your limits,
the more the frustration and disappointments
Be expressive, there is nothing as super man or super woman
If they call you a superwoman,
beware, it might be a trap
to push you more, to make you work more
You are taught to make adjustments throughout life
Even I heard it too many a times, let me ask you,
Is adjustment just a girl thing?
You can be caring and demanding at the same time
You don’t have to be guilt ridden for a little me-time
While being brave to everyone, be brave to yourself first
Nothing wrong in asking for love in the way you need
Nothing wrong in seeking what’s best for you
You only know your needs, no one else
Make yourself feel good
Be guilt free to say no to whatever bothers you
Be independent- emotionally and financially
Be yourself instead of pretending to be who you are
They might call you ‘synonym of sacrifice’, but don’t be captivated to give in too much.
They will look for you to serve the coffee at home even after a hectic day at your office
And still they’ll call it freedom!
Ultimately people ‘ll take you for granted and you’ll lose yourself.
Be fierce when you are being abused in the name of love and family
Setting boundaries is healthy, be it personal or not
Every single one of us has a story something which made us stronger
Know yourself and make yourself proud
You are unique, as every human.
You are the ocean, not any moon can control your waves.
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8 thoughts on “Don’t fancify the women by saying, ‘You are the Goddess””
man ok sure i dig on it honey
nor rise you to madonna within my reach
hey it does suffice
wow fine jesus h ok!
thanks though I’m reading this again to understand it..
Oh this is so powerful and filled with wisdom..thanks for this reminder Akhila
You are welcome Mich
now you can appreciate king leary. quote you puzzle me patrick, did you come back just to mock the gods!!!!!!!!!!!!!???
Lovely and empowering writing!
thank you so much.
Much honoured with your words
have a great time